Dating Tips

What if a woman ask you if you have a girl friend

2008-03-31T11:51:00.002+01:00

Today's tip is going to be very short. I'm going to
answer one of the most common questions I receive every
day.

A question that I always get from my readers is:

"Marius, what if a woman asks me about my love life
or if I have a girlfriend while I'm on a first date...when
I haven't even had a girlfriend for a long time?"

Obivously, you don't want to "lie" to her and tell
her that you have "many" girlfriends when you don't.

Nor do you want to tell her that you're a loser who
hasn't been on a date for years. (Remember: You need
to remain a challenge!)

So here's what you tell her...

Tell her "I don't have a girlfriend right now, but
I do have a couple of prospects."

When you get to the "couple of prospects" part, tilt
your head a bit, look into her eyes, and smile at her. Then
IMMEDIATELY throw the ball back into HER court by asking,
"How about you? How's your love life?"

Or...if you wanna tease her, then asks, "How about you?
How's your love life? You even have one?"

It works like a charm!

The biggest mistakes in dating

2008-03-31T11:51:00.001+01:00

Today I'm going to show you one of the most common
mistakes that the novice Smart Dater make:

Trying to be perfect.

The biggest mistake that I often catch my students
make is spending too much time READING things and "preparing"
themselves for meeting their dream girl instead of actually
DOING and practicing the things I've taught them.

Listen. You will *never* be perfect.

Even I am not perfect. (And I've been doing this for
years!)

Here is's a rule that I am probably going to add to
the next Smart Dating Course update:

"Good enough is enough."

Don't try to learn every single technique before you
start flirting with women.

Don't try to be think of every possible scenario or
outcome before you approach a woman.

Don't wait until you're "perfect" before you approach
a woman.

Chances, you're not going to get it on the first try,
second try, or even third try. These skills take time and patience
to develop. If you obsess about being perfect the first time
you talk to a woman, you'll NEVER get to talk to her - period.

So instead of worrying about getting it right the FIRST
time, focus on taking ACTION.

Go crash and burn - I beg of you.

As long as you learn from your mistakes each time, it
won't be a waste...because you can only GET BETTER.

I promise that you will learn *much* faster if you
actually go out and PRACTICE instead if just reading my dating
tips.

But of course...the biggest objection to this is, "But
I can't afford to fail...because she's the only girl I like and
she means everything to me..."

Well...let's just say that if you have this kind of
attitude, then the battle has been been lost. Until you can
detach yourself from the outcome of a situation, you're never
going to be *really* good in an area - be it dating or any
other area of your life.

Here's the assignment of the week: I want you to get
off your lazy butt and...

1) Make eye contact and smile at 25 women you do not
know.

2) Flirt with every woman you talk to casually.

3) Tease the attractive women.

4) Compliment the unattractive women.

5) Go out twice.

What if you and ur best friend like the same girl

2008-03-31T11:48:00.000+01:00

A question that I often get is, "Marius, what if I
have to decide between going out with a woman and keeping
a best friend who also happens to like the same girl?"

This is a really question to answer - as there's no
"proper" answer.

In my years of experiences as a dating coach, I've
seen cases where a man turns away a best friend just so he
can be with a woman he really likes - only to break up with
the girl a few months after.

It sorts of makes you ask yourself, "20 years of
friendship gone for a relationship that didn't even last
three months...was it worth it?"

But of course, there are some RARE instances where
a man chooses a woman over a friend and has a very good
relationship with her.

But these cases happen rarely, and you should be
aware of the odds. 90 percent of relationships do NOT last
past the first few months So when you choose a woman you've
JUST MET over a friend you've known for 10 or 20 years, you
should be aware of the FRIENDSHIP you're risking and the
ODDS THAT YOU ARE AGAINST.

Here's my advice: Think about your friendship,
think about the woman, and then weigh the consequences.
I cannot tell you what to do when it comes to choosing
between a woman and a friend. I can show you the facts,
but at the end of the day it is going to be a decision
that YOU will have to make - like a man.

As I always say, there are many situations in life
where a "real man" has to make a tough choice and then
LIVE WITH THE CONSEQUENCES without any regrets. This is
a perfect example of such a situation.

What to do when she is under stress

2008-03-31T11:46:00.000+01:00

if you have been dating for awhile, you should know
that there are times when a woman acts stressed or emotional
due to with work, school, family, and other reasons - including
you. Today, I'll show you what to do when your woman is under
a lot of stress.

According to human psychology, there are a few ways that
humans use to deal with problems. Let's look at how they
apply to women:

1) Becoming Overwhelmed By Emotion

The most common reaction to stress and problems for
a woman is to get emotional. This is a time you should give
her a shoulder to cry on to let her know that you are there
for her. Just sit there and listen to her. Don't try to
offer her advice or solutions as tempting as that may sound.
Remember that female and male brains are wired a bit
differently. When guys talk to other people, they are hoping
for a SOLUTION. When women vent to a man, she is not hoping
for advice or solutions, but for emotional support.

2) Pretend To Be Happy

A woman may also pretend that she is happy and that
nothing is wrong. Give her a knowing look and a hug and let
her know that you'll be there for her if she needs you without
saying anything verbally. If she wants to try to be happy,
let her be and don't bust her game.

3) Assume Blame

A woman may also assume all the blame for herself.
If you think it's not her fault for whatever problem or
stress she is thinking, let her know your opinion, and that
she has your full support. But leave it at that. Don't keep
trying to convince her that it's not her fault. Why? Because
if you do, another psychology principle will kick in: She will
start assuming blames on herself even MORE just to get you
to further convince her that she's a good person.

You don't want your girlfriend to fall into an
"I am not worthy" cycle, do you?

4) Isolate Herself

It is very common for guys to isolate themselves
and "think things out" when they are under stress. Women do
the same thing - except they usually only do it when they are
mad at YOU. (And I would argue that they are thinking things
out while they are isolation...they are usually just giving
you the "silence treatment.")

When a woman gives you a silence treatment, access
what you did right or wrong. If you didn't do anything wrong,
then be a bigger b**ch and give her the silent treatment
back, for an even longer period of time. If you DID do
something wrong, however, then an apology is necessary.

5) Fight and Blame Others

A last resort for a woman to cope with stress is to
blame others for her problems. If the problems (such as the
problems at work) are really not her faults, then just let
her vent it out. But if you think she's responsible for her
problems but is unwilling to admit it, then take mental note.
Don't argue with her or tell her that she's the one at fault.
Just take mental note and remember the incident. Why? Because
as a "Smart Dater" you should only date women with good
character, women who always blame others for their own
problems usually do not make good girlfriends or wives in
the long run.

If a woman consistently blames the world for her
problems, it's time to cut her off and find a better girlfriend.

This words may sound harsh...but I am merely looking
out for YOU. Because if you date a irresponsible, psychotic
b****, sooner or later she will start blaming all her problems
on YOU. (I've seen it happen to my clients MANY times...)

Things to talk about with women

2008-03-31T11:43:00.000+01:00

Since many readers have asked me to post a list of
"conversation topics" that they can talk about with women,
here is a list of things to talk about next time you go
out on a date:

1) Current Events

Talking about current events is a good start for
small-talking. It will allow you to seek the opinion of
your date on current events and see what kind of person
she is.

If you don't know anything about current events,
then you definitely need to start watching the daily news or
reading newspapers.

2) Interesting Facts And Stories

It helps to know many interesting stories or facts
that you have gathered from newspapers, magazines, and
books. For example, while on a coffee date you could
teach your date about the history of coffee and the number
of coffee beans that are consumed in the United States
every year.

To avoid being too "geeky", make sure you flirt
with and tease your date while you share your fun facts
and stories. And most important of all, make sure she
is interested in what you're saying. Never flog a
dead horse to death - especially on a boring story.

3) Music And Movies

You can also talk to your date about movies
and music she likes. See what kind of bands and movies
she likes. Then offer to go to the concerts and movies
with her.

4) Common Interests

Find common interests between you and a date,
be it cars, music, or a certain hobby.

5) Background and Lifestyle

Talk about her background and lifestyle and the
things she did when she was a kid. See what her ambitions
and dreams are.

If you're a classy guy, you can also talk about
the lifestyle that you lead. (Where you go, what you eat,
etc.) Just make sure you follow the "poker hand rule" in
the "Smart Dating Course" and don't reveal too much.

6) Passions

Good things to do for your love life why you are single

2008-03-31T11:41:00.001+01:00

Last time we talked about the importance of enjoying
your single life before getting into a relationship. Today I'm
going to show you a couple of things that you can do while you're
still single.

1) Hang Out With Friends

Over the years, I've noticed that a big problem
most guys have when they get out of a long-term
relationship is that they have lost contact with all
their old friends.

I've also noticed a direct correlation between
unhappiness and having a lack of good friends, especially
when it comes to the "lone-wolfs".

A "lone-wolf" can focus all his energy on a woman
(or more than one woman if the lone-wolf is a player) in
the short-term. But when his romantic relationship(s) turn
south or he has a period of bad luck with women, he may
suddenly find himself depressed and unwilling to go out
because he has no friends.

I've seen more than a few amazing "players" go from
"pimp" to "depressed" because they lacked "normal" friendships
with other men while they were between women. It's sort of
like a bad cycle. You're very good with women so you don't
see the point of having male friends. But once in awhile
you have a bad streak of luck with women and so you "give up"
for awhile. But while you're "taking a break", you get into
depression mode because you don't have any buddies to hang
out with. Without any friends to motivate you, you slip
into further depression until you lose all your charm
with women.

Many of my readers who are in their late 20's, 30's
or 40's have told me similar problems. Here's the classic
story of how it happens:

1) Guy is young, handsome, and skilled with the
ladies.
2) Guy plays women and gets a lot of sex.
3) Guy meets "the one" and stops playing.
4) Guy loses all his friends due to lack of
contact.
5) Guy breaks up a few months or years later.
6) Guy doesn't know how to get out of the house
anymore because he has lost all his friends and
"skills".
7) Guy gets depressed.

Do not make the same mistake. When things are going
well for you, don't forget the buddies. And when you're
single, spend more time with them to strengthen your
friendships while you still can.

2) Meet New Friends

You should also meet as many NEW friends as possible
while you're single.

Why? Because relationships tend to take you AWAY from
your friends...so if you don't have many friends to start off
with, you may find yourself without any friends in a few years.

Furthermore, becoming more sociable is one of the best
ways to meet women. How many times have you met a stranger through
a friend who just happens to be very attractive?

If you know enough friends, you will never run out of
women to date.

3) Spend Time With Family

Spending time with family is a good way to "recharge"
your energy while you're single.

4) Find New hobbies

Spend some time on a new hobby or two while you're
single. Developing passion for different hobbies or subjects
will definitely make you a more interesting and well-rounded
person.

Plus, chances are you will be able to meet women who
enjoy the same hobbies as you do.

5) Sports and Fitness

Spend an hour or so at the gym everyday. It doesn't
matter if you're not in shape right now. Anyhow can improve
their physique by working out.

And of course...there are lots of hot and young,
beautiful women with very nice bodies at the gym...

You should also consider taking up a competitive
sport or two. It's good for building your masculinity, which
will become useful when you get back into the dating game.

6) Education and Self-Improvement

Take a few college classes and buy a few self-improvement
programs. You can NEVER spend too much time and money on
improving yourself, and you can quote me on that.

I personally spend at least 10 percent of my time and
income on my own education every month, which includes classes,
magazine subscriptions, psychology journals, books, newspapers,
and self-help programs.

7) Improve Your Dating skills

Lastly, you should improve your dating skills while
you're single, as you never know "when" you will bump into
your dream girl.

Are you really ready for a girl friend

2008-03-31T11:38:00.000+01:00

As a dating coach, I often help guys that have been
devastated by recent breakups or guys that are frustrated by
their loneness as a single man. I often hear things such as,
"I don't know how live without her..." or "I have lost all
motivation to do any work since she rejected me."

You know what I always tell them?

"If you can't live without this woman, then you never
deserved her in the first place!"

These are harsh words, but true to the heart.

Bottom line: A man cannot expect a relationship a woman to
"complete" his life.

Quite often, I counsel guys who feel like all their problems
will go away as soon as they patch up with an ex-girlfriend or get
together with the girl they really like.

I also hear phrases such as, "What's the point of
going to work or finishing my degree...when I know she is not
going to be there with me anyway?"

One of my readers even wanted to drop out of college
to join the army because his girlfriend had cheated on him.

(Note: There is nothing wrong with joining the army. It
should just be a decision that you take SERIOUSLY -
and not as a way to escape the world. The military is
a profession and should you go after it, I want you to
succeed with it.)

This is absolutely crazy....I PROMISE you that if you
feel this way, then you are NEVER going to find true happiness.
In fact, even if you do come across the girl of your dreams, you
are probably going to push her AWAY from you with your neediness.
(Remember guys, being a challenge is the key to being attractive.)

Here's the advice of the day:

*****************************************************************
* *
*"You CANNOT enter a relationship before you've leart to *
*enjoy being single. You CANNOT be loved by a woman until *
*you've learnt to love yourself." *
* *
*****************************************************************

I know these words may sound very sappy, but every word
I've said so far has come from my years of experience as a dating
coach - and you can bet I've worked with thousands if not tens
of thousands of cases.

Here's the bottom line...If you're not too happy with
your current life right now...I highly suggest you work on
YOUR LIFE besides using my dating tips to flirt with women.

Over the years, I've observed that many guys tend
to be attracted to women with qualities that they don't have
themselves.

For example, we may be attracted to women who are
more sociable than we are.

We may be attracted to women who are better dressers
than we are.

We may be attracted to women who are more popular
than we are.

We may be attracted to women who seem to have more
money than we do. (Not kidding - lots of readers have told
me this.)

And if we don't get reciprocal feelings from these
women, then we remember that we are "losers" who don't have
the things they have. Some of us may even start isolating
ourselves or evading from the real world by indulging in
fantasies, playing computer games, or joining the army
just for the sake of growing up.

If you're one of these guys...THEN WAKE UP!

You won't "magically" get the qualities that
you seek by lusting after a more popular, more sociable,
more healthy, more talented (in whatever field), or
wealthier women.

What you REALLY need to do is to work on developing
these qualities IN YOURELF.

Instead of always falling in love with women who
communicate well, become a better conversationalist yourself.

Instead of always admiring women who seem to move
naturally and gracefully, work on your own body language.

Instead of putting women who are popular on a
pedestal and treating them as Goddesses because they are
more popular than you are, work on becoming more sociable
YOURSELF.

On the way, I promise you will end up meeting a
few women (if not many) who share the same traits - the
same traits that you have wanted to have all your life.

How to get a woman choose you over other men

2008-03-31T11:36:00.000+01:00

Today I'm going to teach you a very important lesson on
dating and life in general.

In business, people always ask, "What are you doing
that your competitors are not doing?"

I think the same principle applies to dating and women.
as well. As a Smart Dater, if you would like to have an
advantage over other guys, then you should always be asking
yourself the following question:

"What am I doing that other guys are not doing to attract
the ladies?"

With that said, here are some practical tips on how
you can "outdo" your competition.

1) Be BOLDER than other men

Being bolder than other men will give you an edge
other the average man, as most guys are afraid to take chances.
Don't be the guy who waits a long time before making a move on
a woman. Remember my philosophy: It is better to crash and burn
than to not do anything!

2) Flirt MORE than other men

Many guys think it is "wrong" to flirt with women.
But as a Smart Dater, you should know that flirting is just
a way of being friendly with women! (And the key to raising
attraction!)

3) Be MORE sociable than other men

This is an obivous fact. The more sociable you are
and the more women you meet, the greater your chances of
getting a girlfriend that you'll really like. "Shy" men
who don't have many friends tend to fall for the women
closest to them because they don't have any friends,
period.

4) Be MORE creative than other men

Don't use canned lines and don't do anything
stupid like passing a woman a note. It's not grade school
anymore.

5) Be MORE relaxed and spontaneous than other men

Being more relaxed and spontaneous can automatically
make you appear more confident than other men. Besides,
as I told a reader the other day, if you're tense you will
fail with ANY technique that I teach you. You must use my
techniques naturally!

6) Tease women MORE than other men

Many men are afraid of "offending" women. Use this
to your advantage and tease women more than them.

7) Be MORE of a challenge than other men

Everybody enjoys a good challenge. Be more of a
challenge than other guys and the ladies will come to you.

8) Be MORE knowledgable than other men

What to do if she don't want to commit

2008-03-31T11:34:00.000+01:00

I am often asked, "What should I do if the woman I am
dating does not want to commit to our relationship as much as
I do?"

Honestly, if this is the case, you've got a problem.
Either you're moving too fast, or her character and attraction
are not high enough.

A good relationship requires BOTH parties to be EQUALLY
committed to each other. If one party shows much more eagerness
to commit than the other, then the other person is going to
feel pressured.

Have you ever had a man or woman tell you they feel they're
being suffocated by a relationship? This is precisely what happens
when one party is more interested in the relationship than the
other.

The party with less interest feels suffocated...and this
often lead to a breakup!

So...what do you do if your girl does not want to commit
as much as you do?

Pull back from the relationship a little and see how
she reacts. If she "freaks out" and realizes that she does need
you, then congratulations - you've just given her more motivation
to commit to the relationship.

But if she doesn't care at all...or even worse...she only
seems to care more about the relationship for a SHORT while after
you've played hard to get, then it's a sign that the relationship
is NOT going to work out in the long run.

As you can see, unlike most dating coaches out there,
I actually teach you more than just how to "pickup women" - I
actually show you how you can meet women for the possibility of
finding a GOOD girlfriend (and not just any "slut" either) for
the long-run.

What you should do if you run into an EX girl friend

2008-03-31T11:33:00.001+01:00

If you ever break up with a woman and then run into her
later (especially when she is already dating another man...), it
can be a very difficult and embarrassing situation for both of
you...

In fact...you will probably find it very difficult to
be nice and polite to her...

But you've got to try.

Yes, I know how tempting it is to make "smart-ass" or
sarcastic comments and remarks.

I know how tempting it is to glare at the "other guy"
defensively.

I know how tempting it is to have feelings of revenge,
especially if you're been dumped. (First-time readers email
me to ask how they can take revenge on their ex's all the time.)

Or...if you're still in love with your ex, I know how
tempting it is to beg her to get back together with you.

Or to keep staring at her without knowing what to say.

But none of this childish behaviour will bring you
ANY good. It won't impress your ex or make her have more
respect for you, and it certainly won't help you win her back.

Here's my advice on how to deal with run-in encounters
with an ex-girlfriend:

1) If you have no intention of getting back together,
then just remain calm and polite during your BRIEF conversation
with her, and excuse yourself at the earliest moment. (So neither
of you will suddenly feel jealous or attraction again.)

2) Or...if you DO want to get her back, then act calm
and CONFIDENT, and talk to her as if you guys never went out
in the first place.

Do NOT mention the past relationship.

Do NOT try to "impress" her.

Do NOT beg her to come back.

Instead...just have a CASUAL conversation with her -
the same kind of conversation you would have with ANY woman
you meet. Smile and RELAX - even if you're burning inside.

Tease her a little and see if her responses are
positive. If they are, then flirt just a tiny bit...all
without asking to get back. Then tell her you'll talk to
her at another time and excuse yourself. Leave and walk
tall on the way out.

If you're with another girl, then feel free to
introduce her to your ex - WITHOUT telling your ex you're
dating her. Let your ex GUESS if you've moved on with your
life. Let her miss you. (In this scenario, do not flirt with
your ex, as it would be insulting to the other girl...)

Remember, guys...self-control is ESSENTIAL to
ANY area of life - including dating.

So have self-control and play it cool when you run
into your ex - it may help you win her back!

How to deal with cock blockers that insults you in front of ur girl

2008-03-31T11:31:00.000+01:00

A common question that I get from my readers all the time
is,

"What should I do if another man insults me or makes
fun of me while I am with a woman?"

Here's my recommendation:

Do what politicians do: laugh it off!!!

Remember...a person's words can only hurt you if you react
to their negativity. They only win when YOU allow them to. But if
you act like you don't care about the stupid comment at all, then
all of a sudden...the insult loses its power!!!

So next time a "big guy" tries to put you down or make
fun of you when he sees you with a beautiful woman, here is what
I want you to do:

Smile!

I want you to flash your biggest, brightest, and cockiest
smile at him. You can even shake your head a bit as you throw back
your head and laugh with him. This will show that you're the alpha
male of the group, and that no matter what he has just said, he's
still the loser - not you.

Also, if you're a very witty person, you can consider
throwing back the person's insult with a witty retort after
disarming him with your laugh.

How to project supreme confidence

2008-03-31T11:30:00.001+01:00

Today, I'm going to teach you 10 techniques you can use
to project SUPREME CONFIDENCE while on a first date. (Remember:
If you don't show confidence on a first date, you'll NEVER get a
second date.)

1) Don't Ask, Lead

This one is VERY important. A lot of guys ask stupid
things like "Would you like to go to this restaurant?", "Can I
go to the bathroom", or even worse, "Can we do this again some
other time?"

And they wonder why they never get a second date!

Listen, buddy. Confident men do NOT ask women for
permission to do ANYTHING. They JUST do it. They don't ask for
a kiss. They don't ask for a second date. They don't ask for
ANYTHING.

So next time you go out on a date...please...JUST LEAD
THE WAY. Instead of asking "Can we...", just say "let's..." and
lead her by the arm.

But never, never, NEVER ask a woman ANYTHING. Remember,
boys: If a woman doesn't like something, she will make sure
you know.

2) Never Give a Direct "Yes".

This is a VERY good idea to stay in control while out
on a date. If a woman asks you for something, don't just give
it to her like all the other pussy guys out there. Make her
WORK for it. (Remember, psychology tells us that we appreciate
the things we have to WORK for MUCH more than the "freebies".)

For example...if she asks, "Can we go to Japanese?"
Don't just say "yes." Say..."Maybe...", or be funny and
tease her, "I don't know, only good girls get treated to
Japanese. Are you a nice girl?"

Or if she asks, "Can we sit over there?", instead of
just following her ass like most guys would, grow some
spine and say, "No. I'd rather sit here. It's a much nicer
view here."

The key is to start getting you to act like a MAN.

3) Don't let her "interview" you.

If you want a second date, then you better not let
your woman "interview" you. Women love to interview men on a
first date...so they can weed out all the losers. And guess
what? That means if you screw up on just ONE question...
you're a GONER. G-O-N-E-R. Goner.

And this is EXACTLY why you shouldn't let her interview
you in the first place. Whenever she asks things like "So
what do you do" or "How much do you make?", just give her a
silly answer...like..."Why, are you one of those superficial
women? How much do YOU make?"

Whatever she says, just TURN IT AROUND playfully.

4) Lift up Your Chest, Tuck Your Tummy In

Want to project confidence physically? Do what Sergeant
Marius says in Bootcamp, "Chest up, tummy in, boys."

This will NATURALLY put you in a confident position.

Ever seen a marine walk? That's how I want you
to walk. Chest up, tummy in, soldier!

5) End The Date Early

So the date has been going really well and there's
a LOT of chemistry between you and your new love.

End it now.

I am serious. I want you to ALWAYS end the date early
to keep the power in YOU. Make your date wonder why you have
to go. Make her WANT to go with you again.

Most guys just drag a good date on and on until
it becomes a bad date. Don't be one of them. Be a man and
have the power and self-control to end it early.

6) Don't Let Her Challenge You

If you act like a wussy and back down whenever a woman
challenges you, her attraction for you is going to drop
faster than an apple dropping down from a tree. Most guys make
the mistake of thinking they should never risk "offending"
a woman by showing her their spines.

WRONG.

Never bow down to a woman you like. Don't suck up to
her whenever she challenges you. Because if you do, she's going
to lose respect for you as a potential boyfriend or lover.

So next time a woman challenges you, have some spine
and stand up for yourself.

For example...

If a woman tries to challenge you or to seduce you by
staring into your eyes, stare back. Don't look away until SHE does.
(The moment you look away and blush in shyness, she's going to
lose respect for you as a man and find another man who's
stronger.)

7) Don't Talk About A Second Date

Never talk about a second date while you're still on
the first date. Be a challenge - don't act like a eager beaver.

Remember my golden rule: Take it one date at a time.

8) Don't Tell Her You Like Her

Never, never, NEVER tell a woman you like her. Don't
EVER try to "express your feelings for her". That is worse
than ripping your own spine out and strangling yourself
with it. I am not kidding. Once it's out in the open that you
like her, half the game is over. SHE will have all the power,
not you.

Girls love trying to figure out if a guy likes them or not.
It's part of the dating game. So don't take it away from them!

9) Let Her Think She's Not The Only One

If she asks you if you're seeing anybody else, don't
freak out and say, "No. Just you." Be a MAN and be a CHALLANGE.
Say something like, "Well, I have a couple of possible prospects
right now. We'll see who wins." Then flash her a smile.

10) Be In Control From The Beginning To The End

12 signs you should leave a woman

2008-03-31T11:23:00.001+01:00

1) She is addicted to drugs.

Sorry, call me a jerk, but there's no compromise for
this one. I've seen WAY too many readers get burned by going
out with junkies.

2) She has cheated on you more than once.

Letting her come back the first time was already a
mistake. Don't make the same mistake again.

3) You don't like being with her except for the sex.

You can get sex off any woman. So no matter how good
sex with a particular woman is, it can NOT be the only reason
to stay with her.

4) You know she doesn't like you.

If you know that she does't like you, then you should
also know that she'll leave you as soon as she finds someone
better.

5) She is too needy and demanding.

Women who are a tiny bit needy is okay. But if a woman
is extremely demanding of you, then you should find someone
who's not as demanding.

6) She comes between you and your friends.

women come, women go, but best friends are for life.
Don't lose your friends - or when you finally break up with
a woman, you're going to find yourself without any friends!

7) She doesn't respect you.

If a woman doesn't show you the respect you deserve,
leave without looking back. It will NOT work out anyway.

8) You don't respect her.

I you don't respect a woman as your equal, you're not
going to be happy with her in a relationship. You'll either
be unhappy, or you'll cheat.

9) She has constant emotional problems.

Don't fall pray to drama queens and other emotional
vampires. They will suck all the energy out of you and then
move on to their next victims.

10) You don't like yourself when you're with her.

If you don't like who you are when you're not with a
woman, she is NOT going to make a good long-term girlfriend
for you no matter how hot she is.

11) You're not physically attracted to her anymore.

Never stay with a woman just because you're afraid
of hurting her should you break up. It will only hurt her more
in the end.

12) You keep thinking, "Maybe things will get better..."

After hearing dozens of cases from my readers every week,
I can guarantee you that it won't.

What to do when catch a woman checking you out

2008-03-31T11:19:00.001+01:00

Today's tip will be VERY short. I'm going to tell you
what to do when you check a woman checking you out...

The answer is really quite simple:

Approach her!!!

Remember that women are naturally attracted to men who
are bold, direct, and confident. So if you find a woman checking
you out, just approach her and say "Hi" with a big smile.

If she goes like, "whaaaat?" just flash her another smile
and say, "Nothing. Just thought you might be a interesting person
and so I came up to say 'Hi'. What's your name?"

Or...if you're in a nightclub setting, you can flash
her a big smile or even toast her a drink from across the
room. Then then turn around casually and resume your conversation
with your buddies. Wait 10 to 15 minutes, and then approach her
table. (This is called a 2-stage approach and it works like a
charm.)

Why you should let a woman catch you checking her

2008-03-31T11:16:00.002+01:00

Last time I taught you how to make "accidental eye
contact" with women. Today I'm going to teach you another cool
trick: how to raise sexual tension by letting your date CATCH
you checking her out.

Many guys are AFRAID of letting their dates catch
them checking them out because they are afraid of what their
dates will think of them. (Example: "What if she thinks
I am a pervert???")

I think this is garbage. In fact, I think you should
let her notice it on purpose!

Listen: Your date has spent a lot of time getting
ready to go out with you. The least you could do is to pay
her a little bit of attention!

Next time you go out with a woman, linger your eyes
on her for JUST a little bit too long - until she "catches"
you looking.

Just remeber that this MUST be done in a confident
way. If you show ANY hestitation or nervousness, it's going
to ruin everything.

At this point, she'll probably blush or give you a
"what?" Respond by teasing her casually. (Such as her hair
or skirt.)

Why tease her instead of giving her a compliment?
Because she has already SEEN you checking her out...which
is really a non-verbal compliment itself. There's really
NO reason to state it again verbally. Instead of repetiting
yourself with words, just use this as an opputurnity to tease
her!

How not to lose your girl friend

2008-03-31T11:16:00.001+01:00

Here is how to not lose your girlfriend:

1) Don't Think Your Work Is Finished

Just because you have a girlfriend doesn't mean
you will keep her. Here is a pattern that I see all the
time as a dating and relationships coach:

Guy chases girl.

Guy gets girl.

Guy stops doing the things that helped him get the girl.

Guy loses girl.

Are you going to be one of these guys? I hope not!

2) Don't Ignore The Details

If you want to keep a woman, then pay attention
to details. Notice the things she does and give her
special attention. When she is unhappy, read between the
lines instead of just taking her word for it. Because
if you ask her what's wrong, she will just say "Nothing."

It is up to you to read into the details and
see why she is upset. But don't worry, it doesn't
take a genius to understand women. With a little bit of
practice, you will be able to do it too.

3) Don't Stop Being A Challenge

As I say all the time, if you stop being a
challenge in a relationship, romantic respect will
drop and attraction will lower over time.

4) Don't Freak Out Over Her Ex's

A lot of my readers freak out when their
partners talk to their ex's. This is a normal reaction,
but next time it happens, ask yourself this question:

"Is there anything I can do to lower my partner's
possible attraction towards an ex?" The answer is "no" and
you should leave it at that. You can't change how a woman
feels about another man, so just focus on keeping her
attraction towards you high.

If she likes you enough, she won't think about
other guys - unless she has bad character. (In this
case, you don't want to date her anyway!)

5) Don't Criticize Her In Front Of People

Remember my golden rule: always compliment your
girlfriend or wife in public. Don't put her down in front
of other people!

6) Don't Clash With Her Friends And Family

Do your best to avoid clashing with her friends
and family. Put on a smile and be polite no matter how
much you dislike them. After all, you don't want her to
have to choose between you and them, do you?

7) Don't "Just" Be Her Best Friend

Don't just be a woman's best friend. Be her
lover. Keep the stakes and attraction high, and she
won't leave you.

8) Don't Let Her Stop Over Your Boundaries

Don't be a doormat and let women walk all
over you like so many guys do. Define your boundaries
clearly and don't let your partner step over them.

Appeasement cannot keep a woman close to you
in the long run!

9) Don't Try To Solve Her Problems

When a woman is sad, she wants to be comforted,
not lectured to. Keep your solutions for her problems to
yourself for now. Give her a hug and listen to her talk.
Use my happy walk technique to cheer her up if necessary.

10) Don't Stop Being Romantic

What if she start talking about sex

2008-03-31T11:12:00.000+01:00

A question that I often get is, "What if a woman starts
talking or joking about sex on a first date?"

In my experience, this is often a test.

If you become uncomfortable with her sexual comments,
she's going to know that you're not uncomfortable with your
own sexuality.

In other words, you fail the test.

Or, if you get all excited and talk about sex with her,
you also fail because it shows you're quite desperate. (A man
who gets plenty of regular sex has no reason to get enthusiastic
when the subject comes up.)

So...how do you respond?

Just smile coolly as you look at her in the eyes, as if
you've "got the joke" but don't think it's a big deal. Just
casually react to her, as a man who gets plenty of sex already
would react.

Or...to take things one step further, you could look
it her in the eyes and then in the lips to create sexual tension,
as if you're thinking, "I know what you're thinking..."

Practice makes perfect

2008-03-31T11:04:00.000+01:00

I am sure you have heard of the saying, "Practice
makes perfect."

But does it apply to dating?

Well...personally, I think here's a better statement:

"Practice makes permanent."

The theory behind the idea that 'practice makes perfect'
is that the frequent repetition of a certain action (such as
approaching a woman or asking a women out) will eventually
establish it as a normal pattern. The more you repeat it, the
more firmly established your pattern will be.

This is good if you're practicing the RIGHT way.

However, if you practicing the WRONG way in
the first place, then repetition is going to make things WORSE
for you when it comes to getting women.

Here's an extreme example:

One of my readers had a habit of giving a woman a
"thumbs up" whenever he conversed with one. He first started
it "by accident" when he needed some kind of gesture to
"act cool" in front of a woman he talked to. But the next
time he approached another woman, he did it again...

And again, again and again...

It didn't take long for it to become a habit,
and he soon he found himself giving a "thumbs up" to
every woman he met.

It took him a long time to "undo" this habit.

So how do you avoid practicing the "wrong" things
and ruining your dating game as a result? Well, here are
some tips to help you stay on the right track while
you're practicing.

1) Avoid Mindless Repetition

Mindless repetition is not going to help you
any. You could ask a 100 women for their phone numbers...
but if you do it just for the sake of completing a certain
exercise, it's not going to help you at all. Rather, it
will probably reinforce your bad habits.

(Example: Don't be like the guy who gives women a "thumbs
up" every time. Avoid mindless repetition!)

2) See It As An Art Form

The best way to avoid mindless repetition is to
see dating as an art form. When you treat something as an
art form, you're going to pay more attention to the PROCESS
than the RESULTS. A classical pianist will often play
the same passage over and over to look for imperfection.
Have the same mindset when you're practicing your dating
skills. Learn to appreciate your good work, and at the
same time look for things that you can improve on.

(Example: Let go of your expectations and focus on
improving your skills.)

3) Learn From A Valid Source

Make sure you learn your techniques and strategies from
a valid dating coach - not from an Internet Marketer
who has paid someone on Elance $500 to write an ebook
on dating. Lots of "dating advice" websites have popped up
in the past year, and there's a lot of misinformation
out there. If a certain technique sounds spooky to you,
feel free to email me and ask for my opinion.

(Example: Don't use the stupid business card trick that
I've warned you about a few months ago. Be weary of sites
that look like a porn site and use pictures to arouse you,
etc. Email the site a few dating questions and see what
kind of answers you get. Most of the time, you won't
get an answer at all.)

4) Think About It

Spend as much time THINKING as you do practicing. Practicing
is useless you actually THINK about what you're doing!

(Example: Keep a journal and write down your experiences.)

5) Analyze And Find Solutions

Analyze your results and think about your current problems
and obstacles. Then find a solution to fix your problem.

(Example: If you find yourself Speaking too quickly in
front of a woman, then slow down instead of just repeatng
what you've been doing all along!)

6) Isolate One Thing

Practice one thing at a time instead of trying
everything at once. This way you will know PRECISELY what
it is that you're doing right or wrong. Isolate your
mistakes and learn from them, and in time you can only
improve your success.

(Example: Work on speaking clearly on the first day and on
speaking louder on the second day.)

7) Relate It To The Bigger Picture

Practicing is useless and boring unless you see how it
relates to the big picture. For example, when you practice
smiling at a woman, don't do it because Marius told you to.
Do it because you know it's a way to make women feel
comfortable around you.

(Example: Read the first few chapters of my "Smart Dating
Course" to get the basic concepts drilled into your head.
This way you will see how the techniques actually fit nicely
into our "Smart Dating Model".)

8) Imitate A Master

Look around you and find men that are REALLY good with
women. Imitate their actions and practice doing what
they would do if they were put in the same situation.

(Example: Go rent a Tom Cruise movie and practice
imitating his body language. Then when you go out on
a date, ask yourself, "What would Tom Cruise do?")

9) Don't Avoid Mistakes

You can't have good luck unless you have had bad luck
in the past, and you can't taste success until you
have made mistakes first. Until you feel what it is
like to do something wrong, you're not going to know
if you're doing something right.

(Example: Try to laugh about your mistakes to yourself
and see them as part of your learning experience. At
least you're conscious about your mistakes unlike most
guys. That makes a HUGE difference!)

10) Learn To Feel

Let yourself immerse into the experience every time. For
example...if you're a swimmer, you should know what it's
like to feel every stroke in the water. Or if you're a
musician, you should know what it's like to feel the
music.

Try to do the same thing with dating and with your social
life in general. When you've involved in a good
conversation, sink in the energy and FEEL what it's like
to be right. Or when things aren't going too well, then
FEEL the warning signs. In time, you will build up
your intuition and that is when you will REALLY become a
master at social dynamics.

10 ways to lose a girl fast

2008-03-31T11:02:00.000+01:00

Here are ten ways to lose a girl fast:

1) Act needy. Call her a few times a day.

2) Let her lead and just follow her around on
a date or in a relationship.

3) Act shy and antisocial in front of her friends.

4) Tell her "I like you" too soon.

5) Be in a hurry to "settle down" into a routine
or to label yourself as her boyfriend.

6) Ask for commitment too soon.

7) Try to "connect" with her emotionally without
caring about sexual chemistry. Don't flirt or
tease her at all. Never act like a challenge.

8) Act overposessive and get jealous when she talks
to other guys.

9) Brag a lot when you see her.

10) Do not advance when you have the chance.

This will insult many guys

2008-03-31T10:59:00.000+01:00

I haven't written any political incorrect articles for
this newsletter lately...and my fingers are getting kind of
itchy...

That is about to change, as I am sure today's article
will offend many people. But hey...that's my job as a dating
coach, right?

Here's my insult of the day....

A lot of my readers have been "burned" by women and bad
relationships in the past...

But you know what? My personal belief is that if you
keep attracting the kind of women who take your money or dump
you as soon as they have finished using you, you have nobody
to blame but yourself.

I mean it. As much as you may think that "it's the
whore's fault" for ruining your life, it's really your own damn
fault.

Let me tell you a story about my friend Tim. Tim is
your typical cynical and cocky guy who thinks he's Mr. Little
Hardcore. His nickname on MSN is "I am God" and his profile
picture is a picture of him flipping the bird. He believes
that women are all cheaters and golddiggers and that other
than for sex, women are quite "useless". (In his own words.)

To be fair, Tim is the jerk who has no trouble attracting
women at all. But he does have one problem: Women keep cheating
on him or "screwing him over". It doesn't matter how attracted
they are to him initially. They ALL cheat on him or betray him
eventually. As a result, one of Tim's philosophies is that you
should never trust another person completely because people will
always screw you over for their own selfish gains in the end.

But you know what? If he's always acting cynical,
sarcastic, and like he is Mr. Little Hardcore, just what kind
of women can he expect to attract - except drama queens, total
bitches, and other deranged women who share his cynicism
and twisted sense of humou?

Here's my philosophy: You ALWAYS get what you ask for
in life.

- If you look for women who share your sarcasm or cynicism,
then you WILL get a cynic bitch who'll eventually depress the
shit out of you in the future.

- If you look for women who give you emotional roller
coaster rides because you have a knack for drama, you will end
up with a drama queen who'll drain all the energy out of you.

- If you look for quick sex, don't be surprised if your
girl cheats on you one day.

You get what you ask for - always. (Repeat this line
to yourself ten times!)

By now, you may be thinking, "But what about the few
"nice guys" that end up getting screwed over by golddiggers?

They're ALSO getting what they've asked for.

For example, a lot of "nice guys" look for a woman
who's be "in control" of the relationship because they are
too chicken to take the lead themselves. So can they really
be surprised when the woman get bored or take control of
their bank accounts as well?

Furthermore, most of my "millionaire readers" have tried
to flaunt their wealth in order to impress women. When you're
using your money to attract women, can you REALLY blame your
girlfriends when they turn out to be golddiggers? No!

Here's the lesson of the day: Your mind works like
a filter when it comes to meeting women. It picks out the
kind of women that YOU want and filter out the kind of women
that you don't want.

If you always act like Mr. Little Hardcore, what you're
doing is filtering out all the nice girls and only letting the
bitches into your life.

If you act like you're a rich man, you're filtering
out all the women that are not interested in your money and only
letting in the golddiggers.

Last time we talked about how you always end up
attracting the kind of women that you want into your life.

This time I'll continue my insult by saying that that
you also attract the kind of women you get by using the kind of
techniques that you're using right now.

Let's look at the examples again.

In the last article, we saw how:

1) Mr. Little Hardcore attracts cynical bitches to him
by acting like a cynical, arrogant, and cocky jerk.

2) Mr. Millionaire attracts golddiggers to him by flashing
his credit cards.

3) Mr. Player attracts cheaters to him by focusing only on
the sexual components of a relationship.

4) Mr. Nice Guy attracts bitches into his life by sucking
up to them.

Do you see the DIRECT CORRELATIONS between the "techniques"
these guys use and the women they end up getting?

You always get what you ask for...by the techniques you use!
(Repeat this to yourself ten times.)

This is exactly why I don't believe in "seduction".

A lot of times, one of my readers email me and ask,

"Marius...why don' you teach this" or "Marius, why don't
you teach that?"

The answer is because I want you make sure I only teach
techniques that can give you good LONG-TERM results.

I also try to BALANCE everything I teach you with solid
background knowledge and my PHILOSOPHY on relationships.

For example, my pull-back and challenge techniques can
raise a dying attraction dramatically and even attract an
ex-girlfriend back. But at the same time, I ALSO teach my readers
that was powerful as my techniques are, if you have to keep
using the same technique over and over in order to influence a
woman, maybe you shouldn't be dating her in the first place. (If
you don't agree with this, you need to learn more about my
dating philosophy and focus less on my techniques.)

This is what EXCATLY makes me special to you as a dating
coach. Other "dating or seduction" coaches focus on individual
techniques without caring for the long term effects. (As long as
they get your money. they are happy with the effects.) I, on
the other hand, try to give you the "full picture" so that you
can have a happy, satisfying love life.

Here's what I want you to do if you're a member of my
"Smart Dating Course". Re-read Chapter 1. It's the chapter most
guys skip because they want to get right down to the powerful
techniques discussed in the other chapters. But to me, chapter 1
is one of the most important chapters of the course because it
shows how the Sternberg triangle of love is ESSENTIAL to your
LONG-TERM success in dating.

But what if you don't have a copy of my "Smart Dating
Course"?

Shame on you - you need to get it soon! It's the
PERFECT companion to this free newsletter because it presents
the BIGGER picture and TONS of powerful techniques

17 ways to flirt with a woman

2008-03-31T10:54:00.000+01:00

Since I posted my last article on Christians and flirting,
I've received many emails from readers asking me how they can
flirt. Here's a repost of some techniques I sent out about
a year ago:

Flirting Technique: Eye-Contact

Most of flirting is done with your eyes. Keep good
eye-contact on a woman when you talk to her. Just keep
your eyes focused on her bit "too long."

Flirting Technique: Say "Hello" With Energy

When you approach a woman, say "Hello" in a flirty way.
It will make her think you e sexier than the average
geek who walks up to her and gives her a shy "Hi".

Flirting Technique: Shake Her Hand A Bit Too Long

When you shake her hand, let your hand stay on hers
for a bit too long and then brush against her hand as
you pull back. Do this while smiling and looking into
her eyes sincerely. You don want to come off as a
pervert.

Flirting Technique: Repeat The Woman Name

As you talk to her, repeat her name as much as you can.
Say her name slow, softly and sensually each time you
say it.

Example: "Hello, De-bbie, I am very glad you came
here..."

Flirting Technique: Stir Your Drink

Stir your drink with a rhythm as you talk to her.
The effect can be "hypnotizing" under the right
atmosphere.

Flirting Technique: Lower Your Volume

Lower and lower your volume so she has to lean towards
you to listen.

Flirting Technique: Whisper

When she gets close enough, whisper to her. This works
well in a bar, when the music is so loud you have to
talk in each other ears.

Flirting Technique: Be Playful

Ask yourself the following questions:
1) How much fun can I have tonight?
2) What sorts of interesting things can I
find out about this girl?

Flirting Technique: Use Nicknames

When you get closer to a woman, make up a cute nickname
for her.

Flirting Technique: Touch Her Back

If she starts touching you, then touch her on the
shoulder or arm when you laugh. Increase the frequency of
touching as the night goes on.

Flirting Technique: Leave Her Wanting More

Do what strippers do the guys. Get a girl all hot and
then leave her wanting more!

Flirting Technique: Laugh At Her Jokes

Laugh at her jokes whenever she makes one. Touch her on
the arm lightly when you laugh if she already touching you.

Flirting Technique: Listen To Her Stories

Pay attention to what she says. Be focused on her, not
on the hot waitress.

Flirting Technique: Drop A Compliment

Drop her a compliment every once in awhile. Not too often
though!

Flirting Technique: Tease Her

Incorporate teasing into your flirting. Tease her till
she's wet!

Flirting Technique: Get More Personal

Ask her more and more personal questions as the evening
progresses. Things about her childhood, etc!

Can christians flirt

2008-03-31T10:53:00.000+01:00

A lot of my Christian Readers have emailed me to ask,
"Marius. What should I do if I am Christian? I am not sure if
flirting is appropriate for me because of my religious
background."

Here's what a Christian reader of mine has suggested
to me in the past. (Not exact quote...I am paraphrasing him...)

"See flirting as a way of giving attention to people.
Think of it as a way to share your warmth. See it as a way to
make other people feel good about themselves, not as a way
to get anything in return."

I agree with this reader. He has got it down TOTALLY.
Flirting is a way of GIVING, not a way of "taking" as most
people wrongly assume. Don't flirt to get into a woman's pants.
Flirt with her to MAKE HER FEEL GOOD about herself. Give her
pleasure by flirting with her and teasing her.

There is NOTHING selfish or immoral about making other
people feel good.

Quick way to improve your body language

2008-03-31T10:51:00.002+01:00

Last time I asked you to learn more about social dynamics,
body language, and voice tone by observing other people in the
real world.

Today, we're going to focus on YOU.

Here's the assignment:

I want you to borrow a video camera from a friend and
film yourself at a party or social event. (Get a friend to film
you if you can...)

Play the tape back and watch your own body language.
See if you like what you see.

Chances are...you'll discover a LOT of things that you
never knew about yourself!

Next, take out a piece of paper and a pen. Write down
all your weakest areas. (Round back, little eye contact, jittery
movements, too much arm movements, too fast, weak voice, etc)

Then work on and improve each area one by one. Film
yourself again and see if you see any improvements.

Keep doing this. I promise you will feel like a different
person in a few months.

How to get out of the negative zone

2008-03-31T10:51:00.001+01:00

I am often asked, "Marius, how can I get out of the
negative zone"?

In case you're not familiar with the "Smart Dating
System", the "negative zone" is a zone you're in after you've
been dumped or rejected by a woman. When you're in the negative
zone, everything you do will just annoy a woman and push her
further away.

So...how do you get out of the negative zone once
you're in it?

The answer is to WAIT.

Only time can get you out of the zone.

why? Because when you're in the negative zone, ALL of
your actions will only "annoy" the woman even more. It doesn't
matter if your intentions are good. No matter what you do, the
woman will STILL shun you because she will think it's another sign
of you showing affection for her.

And if you remember rule #1 of the "Smart Dating System",
it's not how much you like a woman, but how much a woman likes
you that matters.

So what should you be doing while you're waiting to get
out of the negative zone?

Personally, I think you should be moving on psychologically/
You should also be improving yourself.

Don't just stay at home while you're waiting to get out.
Go out and date other women. Practice your flirting skills.
Go to the gym. See your old buddies again. Party, party, party.
Take a couple of classes to improve yourself. And most important
of all, learn and practice your dating skills so that you don't
make the same mistakes next time.

What to do if a woman ask you for favours

2008-03-31T10:49:00.001+01:00

In the past two issues we have talked about how you
should act when a woman is depressed or when a woman is
asking you for advice. Today's article will be much
"lighter". Instead of talking about what to do when a woman
is upset or depressed, We're going to talk about what you
should do when a woman asks you for little innocent favours.

When a woman asks you for a small favour, I want you
to act like a challenge by bartering with her.

For example, when a woman asks you to hold her bag,
don't just take it from her like a little puppy. Make her say
"pretty please".

When a woman asks you for a pen, ask for a small peck
on your cheek.

what if a woman ask you for advice

2008-03-31T10:47:00.000+01:00

Last time I showed you why you should just LISTEN to a
woman and give her a shoulder to cry on when she's upset.

But what if a woman actually ASKS you for advice? What
should you do then?

Personally, the first thing I say when I give a woman
advice is always, "What do you want to do?"

This is for basic calibration purposes. By asking her
this question, I'll get a sense of what she is REALLY looking
for.

You see, a lot of times when a woman asks you for
advice, she has ALREADY made up her mind on what she would
"like" to do. She is really just asking you to CONFIRM a
decision she has already made. This is VERY important to
remember. (The same principle applies to guys as well.)

So by asking her what she would like to do,
you're giving her chance to "spill the beans" and tell you
what she thinks she should be doing. You can then offer
your viewpoint on her solution.

But of course...sometimes a woman will REALLY be
clueless and say, "I don't know."

In that case, I'll ask, "Well, what do you THINK
you should do?" Most of the time, she will spill whatever
she has on her mind. (The word "think" actually disconnects
the answer from a person. This is why she'll be more likely
to open up to you when you use the word "think".)

If she STILL does not know what she should do, then
I'll finally give her my advice by saying, "If I were you, I
would..."

This way, I am just telling her what I would do if
I were her - without imposing any of my judgement on her life
or situation.

This is a VERY important key when you're giving people
advice. YOU never want to give people direct advice because
a lot of times people will take it the wrong way and start
acting defensive.

How to act when a woman is upset

2008-03-31T10:46:00.001+01:00

What should you do if a woman is depressed or upset?

Here's my advice for you:

Give her emotional support and a shoulder to cry on,
but do NOT attempt to give her ANY solution to her problems.

Why not?

Because women's heads are wired differently than ours.
As men, we want solutions to our problems right away. Women,
on the other hand, want emotional support. So when women tell
you their problems, they aren't REALLY looking for you to
give them your two cents. What they're really looking for
is emotional support.

Unfortunately most guys do not realize this, and that's
why they try to play the "advisor" or "counselor" whenever
their girlfriends tell them their problems. Instead of
LISTENING to their girlfriends, they try to chip in and offer
their "solutions" for the problems RIGHT AWAY. As a result,
both parties become frustrated. The women feel their boyfriends
are not listening to them, while the men complain to their
buddies that their "stupid" girlfriends are not listening or
being "logical". (Sounds familiar? I hear such cases ALL the
time!)

So what should you do if a woman comes to you when
she's upset? The first thing you should do is to LISTEN. Don't
be too eager to offer her your opinion or your "solution" yet.
Just LISTEN to her and give her a shoulder to cry on. Most of
the times, she just wants somebody to talk to.

If she starts acting like a bitch, then just keep
your silence and ignore her. Don't let her drag you into
her depressed state. Give her your emotional support - but draw
the line there. Getting inside her world will only makes things
even more complicated.

Eliminate garbage words when talking to woman

2008-03-31T10:44:00.000+01:00

In the past We've talked about eliminating "garbage
body language". Today we're going to talk about eliminating
"garbage words".

"Garbage words" are words that many guys use as "filler
words" in front of or after a sentence.

Some examples are...

- "To be honest..."

- "Honestly..."

- "Well..."

- "Hmm..."

- "So..."

- "...eh?"

- "...right?"

Here's a general rule: If a word or phrase does not
have anything to add to a sentence, cut it out!

Using "filler" words to fill the gaps in a conversation
won't make you get rid of the "dead air spots". It will only
make you sound weak and unsure - the last thing you want when
you're talking to a woman.

If you're not sure if you're using "garbage words" in
your communication right now, here's what I want you to
do:

Get a tape recorder and record yourself having
conversations with friends. Then play back the tape and
analyse how you talk.

What if you are not sure how much she likes you

2008-03-31T10:41:00.000+01:00

If you're not sure if a woman likes you...then I've got
some bad news for you...

YOU HAVEN'T BEEN ADVANCING ENOUGH!

It means you haven't advanced enough when you had the
chance to...

Or even worse...

It means everything is inside your head.

According to my "Smart Dating Course", dating is like
passing a traffic light at an intersection.

When you come to an intersection with a traffic light,
there are only three lights you can get - a green light, a
red light, or a yellow light.

The green light means "go ahead". (She likes you.)

The red light means "no". (She's rejecting you.)

The yellow light means you're not sure.

But as a smart Dater, you DO NOT want to see a yellow
light. To a student of the Smart Dating System, seeing a
yellow light just means you haven't been advancing enough. It
means you should have kept driving through the light to the next
intersection until you see a red light or a green light.

Why? Because until you actually advance through the
yellow light, you will NEVER know if it's going to turn into
a red light or a green light at the next intersection.

Even getting a red light is better than getting a yellow
light, because then you can MOVE ON with your life. Staying
with a yellow light, on the other hand, will be a waste of
your time.

So how do you use this analogy in the real world?

First of all, ALWAYS, ALWAYS use the flirt-test as a
way to advance to the next light. Flirt and see if she
flirts back. If she does, you know it's a green light.

Secondly, you also want to keep moving in physically
and taking things to the next level. If you're holding her
hand, then stroke her hair. If you're stroking her hair, then
give her a kiss...and so on...

Because until you grow some balls and ADVANCED FORWARD,
you have no way of telling how much she likes you back.

These is just one of the many practical analogies from
my course on how to meet, attract, and date BEAUTIFUL
women.

How to get revenge on your EX

2008-03-31T10:40:00.001+01:00

Here's my honest answer:

The BEST way to get your revenge on an ex-girlfriend or
on a woman who has used you in the past is to date someone who
is BETTER than her.

A lot of men fantasize about "seducing" an ex-girlfriend
back just for the purpose of dumping her for revenge. Some
readers have even asked me if it's possible to "hypnotize" their
ex-girlfriends "just long enough" for them to dump them.

I'm against this sort of negative thinking.

If you're unhappy with a woman, then just find someone
better than her. Taking direct revenge on a woman won't make
YOUR life any better. It won't have ANY positive effect on
your own love life.

It will probably just get you into another "mess" and
put you on another emotional roller coaster ride. (Seriously,
do you want another one of those?)

Listen. We only have a limited amount of time in this
world and we should ENJOY our lives while we're here.

So instead of plotting revenge and going through all
the negative emotions of the breakup again, go out and improve
your dating skills so you can find someone who's BETTER than
whoever you were dating or chasing.

Find an amazing woman who's 10 times better than your
ex-girlfriend and move on with your life.

THAT'S the best revenge!

How to cure your fear of women

2008-03-31T10:39:00.001+01:00

Do you have a fear of beautiful women? Do you freeze
up every time you're in the presence of a woman who's hot
and beautiful?

If so...then the following exercise is for you.

Here's what I want you to do:

1) Befriend 5 Women

Go out and befriend 5 hot women. Don't hit on them.
Don't flirt with them. Just befriend them.

Don't worry about falling into the friendship jail.
Just be a good friend of theirs and hang out with them as
often as you can - even if it means tagging along with them
when they go out to pickup guys.

Since you're just befriending them without hitting
on them, this should be easy even if you're a shy guy.
(And if you're so shy that you can't even befriend a woman
"as a friend", then you MUST do this exercise and overcome
your fear of women. If you can't even talk to a woman,
you're NOT going to get a girlfriend, buddy!)

2) Get Comfortable Around Them

Next, I want you to just get comfortable around
your new female friends. Learn to look at them in the
eyes. Learn to initiate innocent physical contact with them.
Talk to their other friends when you go out. You're part
of their groups now - so get comfortable with your new
social life.

3) Observe Their Love Lives

Observe the way they act in relationships. Sense
their own insecurity around guys they like. See through
their fragile fantasies. watch how they throw "tests" at
guys sub-consciously and how their attraction levels raise
or lowers as time goes by - and why.

4) Talk To Their Boyfriends

Work your charm on their boyfriends as well. Stroke
their ego's and be buddy-buddy with them. At the same time,
learn from them by observing how they've managed to attract
their hottie girlfriends.

5) Watch How They Pick Up Guys

If one of your new friends is single, then go out
with her to a club and how she picks up guys or deals
with guys that try to pick her up.

6) Get Them To Give You a Makeover

Get your new female friends to give you a makeover.
Let them show you what hair style or clothes look the best
on you.

7) Hook Up with Their Friends

Get them to introduce you to their friends. Chances
are, their friends are going to be as good-looking as they
are.

8) Use Them to Build Social Proof

Be seen with your new hot friends at clubs and
events. "social proof" and envy are powerful psychological
factors. Believe me or not, women will find you more
attractive when they see you hanging out with other hot
women.

9) Improve Your Own Self Image

25 signs a woman likes you

2008-03-31T10:27:00.000+01:00

Here are 25 signs a woman likes you...

1) She asks people lots of questions about you.

2) She flirts with you, and you only.

3) She talks about you a lot in front of other people.

4) She talks to you about things she has heard from friends.

5) She keeps asking about your love life.

6) She teases you a lot.

7) She blushes in red when she sees you.

8) She tenses up when you touch her but does not attempt to move away
at all.

9) She doesn't look away when you check her out.

10) She constantly adjusts or smoothes your clothing's.

11) She starts a conversation with you, when you don't know her.

12) She gives you all her contact information when you just ask for her
number or email.

13) She gets jealous when you flirt with other women.

14) She dresses up when sees you.

15) She laughs at all your jokes.

16) She thrusts her breasts out while talking to you.

17) She wants to spend time with you.

18) She's very "obedient".

19) She acts excessively offended when you tease her and tries to get
you to "make it up".

20) She TALKS about getting angry at you, but never does.

21) She invites you over at night.

22) She calls you or talks to you for no reason.

23) She asks you out to an event with her.

24) She comments how great you smell.

25) She plays with your hair.

Common traits every player shares

2008-03-31T10:26:00.001+01:00

Over the past few years, I have noticed a COMMON trait
among EVERY man who is successful with women.

Of all the "players" I have met and interviewed, they
are almost always very sociable people.

And I don't mean they are just sociable with women.
They are sociable with EVERYONE they come across. No matter
how "alpha" they are, they are NATURAL LEADERS that are
CHARMISTIC and SOCIABLE. They can strike up a conversation with
you in 10 seconds, no matter you're a hot model or just another
guy sitting at the bar.

So...before you dream of becoming the kind of guy
every woman wants, I want you to take a look in the mirror
and ask yourself the following question:

"How sociable am I?"

1) How often do you meet new friends?

2) How often do you talk to strangers?

3) How often do you raise your opinion at work or
at school?

4) How easy is it for you to carry on a conversation
with a stranger? Not with a hot woman - but with ANY
stranger?

As I always say, your love life is merely a REFLECTION
of your life in general. So if you aren't very sociable with
women, chances are, you're just not very sociable IN GENERAL.

I know these words sound harsh - but as you know, I
always try to show reality in my newsletters, and reality
always hurts.

Here's my suggestion:

Before you pursue your dreams of becoming a player
every woman wants, perhaps you should take a step back and
think about how you can become a more SOCIABLE person in
general. Not just with women, but with EVERYBODY you meet.

Here are some practical tips on how you can become
a sociable person RIGHT NOW:

1) Go out with your friends more often.

2) Invite your friends to do things with you.

3) Hang out with the "groups" at your workplace
or school.

4) Laugh at people's joke and make them feel
comfortable around you.

5) Be naturally interested in other people.

6) Say "thank you" when others compliment you.

7) Don't be "too modest" when people center
turn their attention on you. Thank them (see
rule number 6) and compliment them back.

8) Go out AT LEAST twice with your friends every
week.

Now...go out and make some friends!

Having trouble approaching women

2008-03-31T10:22:00.002+01:00

If you find yourself having trouble approaching women,
what I am about to say will definitely surprise you:

Approaching women isn't the hardest part of the dating
game. CLOSING with a woman is.

It's true. Most guys just talk and talk to a woman...
without ever asking for her number or closing for a date.

If you're one of these guys, then I can REALLY feel
your pain.

Why? Because just like you always have trouble closing
for a woman's number at the end of a conversation, I always
have trouble closing for a "sale" at the end of each article
I write.

Believe me. It's EXTREMELY hard for me to write that
little "tag" at the end of my emails. I can write pages and
pages on how to date woman, but when it comes to the end of
each article and I come to the part where I have to ask you to
download my course, I always freeze.

Now...the funny thing is...from what I've heard from
my students, in spite of what I think, I am actually pretty
good at convincing people to download my course. (Probably
because it kicks ass and can seriously improve your success
rate with women.)

This just demonstrates how what you FEEL in your
mind may be different than REALITY. Even though I feel I
suck at "closing" at the end of my articles, REALITY shows
otherwise.

Your situation with "closing for numbers" or for
dates may be very similar. It is possible that you're
better than you think. If you just force yourself to push
those words out, the results may just surprise you.

Let me tell you a short story.

During the first 2 and a half years I worked as a
dating coach, I was too afraid to refer people to my website.
I didn't even include a link that leads to my website until
a professional salesman emailed me and told me what I was
doing wrong. (This just shows how a master salesman can
be bad at closing for dates and a dating coach can be
bad at closing for sales!) At his suggestion, I spent
several thousand of dollars (which was a REALLY big
stretch for me at the time) over the next few years on
sales courses and books on how to become a "master
closer".

Today, I still don't feel one hundred percent
comfortable "closing" for my newsletter articles. But at
least I know I am "getting there". All that hard work
has finally paid off.

What if your girl cheats on you

2008-03-31T10:22:00.001+01:00

There are two reasons why a woman would cheat on you.
The first one is her low attraction for you. The more a woman
is attracted to you, the nicer she will be to you. When a woman
is very, very, attracted to you, she will do everything she can
to please you. On the other hand, the less a woman is attracted
to you, the more likely she will do naughty things such as fooling
around with other guys behind your back.

The second reason a woman would cheat on you is that she
is disloyal. Some women are more loyal than others, and that's
why you need to make sure a woman is loyal before you commit to
her. Think of it this way: there is a "tolerance level" in every
woman's system. Every woman can only take a certain amount of
temptation before she cheats on a man. Your job is to find a
woman with a high tolerance level and keep the attraction high
so that the temptation is low.

But what if a woman cheats?

"Once a cheater, always a cheater? is my belief.

I can't tell you whether you should break up with her
or not. That's a decision that YOU'll have to make. The more
control you want to have over your own life, the more
RESPONSIBILITIES you have to take - including standing up for
yourself and figuring what YOU want.

All I can tell you is that if you choose to stay,
you're probably going to be in for a rough life. In my
experience, a lot of women that have cheated the first time will
also cheat for a second or third time. If you're softhearted and
want to forgive your girlfriend or wife once, then make sure you
follow the "two strikes and you're out rule". After all, if a
woman cheats on you a SECOND time, it means you've already made
a mistake the first time. Don't make the same mistake again!

To learn how you raise the sexual chemistry so that
your girlfriend will be less likely to cheat on you, check
out my Smart Dating Course.

I'll give you an incredibly DETAILED explanation of
how and why women feel ATTRACTION for men, and how you can
use this information to go after the woman you REALLY want.

How to tell if you are in the negative zone

2008-03-31T10:20:00.001+01:00

Here're some signs that you're in the negative
zone in a woman's mind:

1) She avoids talking to you in person.

2) She never answers your emails, phone calls, or
messages.

3) She has rejected you within the past 3 months.

4) She has dumped you within the past 3 months.

5) She calls you "annoying" - and she means it.

6) She seems to be afraid of you.

7) She asks friends to brush you off.

8) She doesn't look like she wants to talk to you
at all.

9) She has told you to "give up" on her.

10) She gives you an excuse every time you ask
her out.

When you're in the negative zone, the only thing
you can do is wait. Time is the only thing that can pull
you out of the negative zone - because when you're in a
woman's negative zone, ANYTHING you do will only be seen as
"annoying" to her. (This is why I always stress you should
avoid getting into her negative zone in the first place

How to undo damage you ve done with a woman

2008-03-31T10:12:00.000+01:00

I am often asked, "How can I undo the damage I have
already done to a relationship, such as not acting enough of
a challenge to a woman or getting into a big argument with
her?"

Unfortunately, this is no magic fix. You can't just
go back in time and "fix" any damage that has already been
done.

Let me show you what I mean...

Whatever situation you're in right now, you're only
in it because of your past actions. For example, if your
girlfriend finds you too needy and wants some "personal
space" right now, it's because you were too needy IN THE
PAST. And since you can't go back in time and live your
life again, there's nothing you can do right now that can
"reverse the damage".

However, never forget that your future will one
day become your present, and when that happens, your present
will become your past. What this means is that whatever you
do NOW will affect your future. So while you can't go back
in time and "reverse" the damage you've already done, you
can take action now to make things better for the FUTURE.

For example, if you have always been needy in the
past, you can't just call a girl and "promise" her you will
give her lots of personal space from now on. You can,
however, ACT independent from this moment on, and if you're
lucky, in a few months she may stop seeing you as a needy
person.

Here's another example...

If you've just got into a big fight with a woman,
instead of doing further damage by proving to her that
you're right, you can just let the issue cool down and
work on ATTRACTING her.

Here's the bottom line: If you just keep fighting,
her attraction for you will keep dropping. But if you stop
fighting and start attracting again, in a few months she
may be so attracted to you again that she'll forget about
the fight completely.

In short, always look towards the future and never
dwell on the past. what done is done. You can't change your
past. Focus on shaping your future instead!

Lastly, don't forget that it is much logical to
PREVENT making dating mistakes than to REGRET making them
later on. Too many guys come to me for help only AFTER they
have done a great deal of damage to their relationships or
to their love lives.

Solution? Play the love cop. Look at your love life
and relationship objectively. Try to see if you're "missing"
anything or making any costly mistakes. Never get cocky and
stop improving your love life.

As I always tell my students, what you can't see will
eventually kill you. Just like a car, we each have blind spots
in our love lives. For example, you could be doing things
that are driving women away RIGHT NOW without even knowing it.
Your job as a Smart Dater is to identify each of your blind
spots and overcome them one by one. We ALL have areas that
we need to work on more - even me.

How to use jelousy to get a girl

2008-03-31T10:09:00.000+01:00

Here are a few ideas on how to use a woman's jealousy
to help you attract her.

1) If a woman refuses to see you as anything more
than a "friend", flirt with and date other girls in front of
her and make sure she finds out about all the juicy details.
Tease her about how much you enjoy just being friends with her.
Next, give her a lot of attention and compliments for a few
weeks before you SUDDENLY pull back and stop hanging out with
her. When she calls, just let her know you're busy because you
have to see your other girl friends. If she is attracted to you,
she will freak out and try to get you back.

2) Always be seen with women when you're out at clubs
or parties. Bring a friend or two along - even if they are just
your cousins. Or hit on some less attractive women and have them
follow you around the club. This is a very powerful way to get
attention from the "10's".

3) Whenever a woman asks, "Are you single?", never
say "yes". Tell her that while you do not have a serious
girlfriend right now, you do have a couple of "prospects.

What if she does nt call back

2008-03-31T10:08:00.000+01:00

am often asked, "What should I do if a woman doesn't
call back or answer my message?"

Move on.

Yes, I know these words sound harsh, but if a woman
isn't answering your calls, that's a sign of low attraction
right there. Pestering her will only push you further into
the negative zone.

If you want to be persistent, then you can try
flirting with her more IN PERSON to increase the attraction
before you call again. This is your ONLY option because
if a woman isn't even answering the phone, NOTHING you say
is going to change her mind. No matter how "cute" your
messages are, she's not going to call you back.

Just stop calling her and work on other women
for now!

Romance breathing Magic

2008-03-31T10:06:00.000+01:00

Today's tip is going to be VERY short. But it's also
going to be VERY fun to do.

Next time you're making out or cuddling with a woman,
I want you to SHUT UP. Stop talking. Don't say anything.

Use your breathing to communicate with her instead.

As you make out or cuddle with her, vary the rhythm
of your breathing to show your different levels of excitement.

Breathe slowly as you caress her body softly.

Breathe lightly into your ears as you cuddle with her
and smell her neck.

When she begins to "loosen up" and really makes out
with you, deepen your breath and breathe faster. Use your
heavy breathing to show her how aroused you are.

Finally, when you're finished, let her rest her hand
or head on your arm or chest as your breathing slowly returns
to normal. To a woman, that effect can be quite tranquilizing.

Dating realities

2008-03-31T09:58:00.000+01:00

A couple of you have asked me to elaborate on the
"reality" concept that I talked about in my last email, so
that's what I'm going to talk about today.

I firmly believe that there are HUGE differences
between our beliefs and what REALITY really shows.

I am not just talking about the differences between our
"ideal world" and "reality". (Example: In the ideal world,
everybody will eventually see what a wonderful guy you are. In
the real world, nobody really cares.) I am talking about how our
PERSONAL BELIEFS and OPINIONS may NOT actually reflect reality.

When I started getting into this dating game, I
interviewed a lot of female friends and asked them what they
want.

Oh boy. What a mistake.

The typical answers were answers such as...

"Somebody nice."

"Somebody funny."

"A guy who is not a pig."

"A guy who will be good to me."

So there I was, a guy who was trying to be "nice",
"funny", "not a pig", and "good to women."

And guess what? I was every girl's best friend, but
not their boyfriend.

It took me a good year to figure out that there is
a HUGE difference between what women SAY they want and what
they REALLY want.

Just because a woman "thinks" she prefers dark-haired,
well-built man doesn't mean she won't respond to a
blond-haired man with a KILLER PERSONALITY.

Just because a woman "says" she'd never kiss a guy
on a first date doesn't mean she won't ever do it.

Just because a woman "says" she wants a nice, funny
guy who's "not a pig" doesn't mean she will start dating
her best friend.

Interesting concept, eh? Well, guess what? It works
the "other way" too.

When you think, "Women are only attracted to jerks
and that's why I never get laid", it may not reflect
reality. (And it doesn't - but that will have to be a topic
in another email.)

When you think, "I will never get laid because I
am ugly", you're stopping yourself from success because
you're neglecting the fact that women also care about
your dating skills and personality. (In the real world,
women care about the CUMULATIVE SCORE, as I explained in
my last email.)

When you think, "My best friend gets laid a lot
because he is an athlete," it doesn't really help you
because the REALITY may be that your best friend is really
just a VERY GOOD FLIRT.

In short, your own opinion of what "should" or
"shouldn't" work could SEVERELY mess up your love life.

This is what I mean when I say I have based my
Smart Dating Course on "reality" instead of on opinions
and theory. Instead of thinking, "Hmm. I think women
prefer jerks because that's what everybody says," I
went out and OBSERVED people. I OBSERVED how the best
"players" in the fields got women, and I tried to
duplicate their success by imitating what they were
doing - until I knew enough to compile everything into
my own "model" which eventually became the Smart Dating
system.

It took me a few years of time to finally
"get it", and to have total confidence that I could
go out and meet women, anywhere, anytime. But if I hadn't
started observing REALITY instead of relying on my own
opinions and old beliefs, I would probably still be a
"shy" guy today.

I am not kidding. Take a look around you and look
at how many men there are out there that are in their 30's
or 40's and are still very unsuccessful with women. These
guys never "got it". I am glad I did. And you should be
glad you're going to get it too.

This reason most men fail with women

2008-03-31T09:41:00.002+01:00

What I am about to tell you may be a little bit
controversial.

In fact, your mind will probably be screaming, "NO!
Don't listen to this!" very soon. (This is normal, as
I will explain to you shortly.)

I am here to tell you that if you're not having the
kind of success you would like to have with women, it's probably
because your mind is ENJOYING the failure.

After almost five years of helping men with their love
lives, I have come to the conclusion that most guys are ADDICITED
to rejections from hot women. Even though they are not
consciously aware of it (they may even argue against it when
they hear my theory), most men are really so addicted to their
feelings from past situations that every time they have a remote
CHANCE of becoming successful with a stunning woman, they
mess up because they don't know how to "handle" the success.

Let me explain this with an analogy.

Imagine your mind as a little elastic band sitting on
your desk, unstretched. Now, let's pretend you're talking to a
truly stunning woman and it just so happens that she is VERY
interested in you. What will happen to your little elastic band
then? It will probably get stretched out to its limits - as
your mind is suddenly forced to expand to accept the incredible
encounter with this woman.

But the trouble with your mind is that just like any
other rubber band, it is going to be fighting and
fighting and fighting to go back to its original shape.
So as you try to make small talk with this hot woman, your mind
will start telling you, "STOP! STOP! STOP! THIS SHOULDN'T
BE HAPPENING! IT'S TOO MUCH FOR YOU TO HANDLE!"

As a result...you start to feel nervous...your palm
starts to sweat...and you begin to mumble stupid things as
you eyes starts looking at the floor...

So why does your mind do this to you all the time?

It's really simple.

You see...just like an elastic band, your mind is
more comfortable in a RESTING position. Believe it or not,
if you have had nothing but failure with women in the past,
then your mind will be COMFORTABLE letting you stay a
failure with women, because then it won't have any nasty
"surprises". To put it in plan English. if you keep on
getting rejected, your mind will at least know what to expect.

Your mind is actually AFRAID of what you're capable
of. Because with personal change, ANYTHING could happen:

- You might bump into a few walls that you haven't
bumped into before. (Your mind would rather see you bump
into the SAME walls over and over...because that way it'd
know what to expect.)

- You might learn to work on yourself. (Your mind
would rather see you stay the same because change is scary.)

- You might let go of some of your old beliefs.
(VERY scary to a mind.)

- You might learn that you ARE in control of your
own life. (EXTREMELY scary to a conservative mind that is
used to blaming external factors for your failures.)

So what should you do?

Here's your solution:

Replace your old elastic band with a longer and
thicker one. Know that you are in control of EVERYTHING
you do.

You choose what you do.

You choose what you wear,what you say, what you believe,
and what you do when you approach a woman.

They are all YOUR choices, get it?

Keep exploring new options. If something hasn't
been working for you all these years, it's not going to
"suddenly" work for you now. You've got to come up with
NEW ways to do things, even if your mind doesn't feel
comfortable with the new changes. If you're feeling
confused, angry, fearful, or depressed with your love
life, it means whatever you're doing isn't working for you
right now. Because if you keep on doing old things
because they make you more comfortable, then you're just
going to keep getting your OLD results.

The bottem line is...if you want to have success
with women, then you'll have to change SOONER OR LATER.
So the ONLY question is: how much more pain do you want
to undergo before you change your life for the better?
How many more times do you want to make the SAME mistakes
with women until you finally start learning how to do
things the RIGHT way?

Here's the exercise of the day. Take out a piece
of paper and a pen. Write down 5 things that you would
like to do differently from now on.

Examples:

1) "I am going to go out every Friday night from
now on...no matter how busy my schedule is."

2) "I am going to try to close for the number every
time I meet a new woman."

3) "I am going to start saying 'no' to women."

4) "I am going to go out instead of watching TV
from now on."

5) "I am going to be more sociable with EVERYBODY
from now on."

Why I love resistance from women

2008-03-31T09:41:00.001+01:00

I have a secret confession to make.

I love it when a woman shows resistance. The more
resistance she shows...the more excited I am...

Now...before you report me to FBI as a potential
rapist, let me tell you what I mean...

When a hot woman gives me resistance, I welcome it
because it actually helps my game. It shows me what I am doing
WRONG and what I am doing RIGHT.

Here's an exercise:

Imagine yourself as a sailor. A good old sailor in
an old fashioned boat. When the wind turns against you,
what do you do?

Do you try to buck up against the storm and stall
or even sink your ship as a result, or do you ADAPT to
the changing wind and use it to SAIL FORWARD?

Dating is just like sailing. When a woman gives you
resistance, don't see it as "resistance". See it as her way
of HELPING you find out what she DOES want. Take a step
back and think, "What I am doing wrong? What should I try
instead?" As I say in my Smart Dating Course, it's useless
to confront resistance. You will just hit the same wall
over and over again until you're too sore to go on.
Persistence is overrated. You don't want to have "persistence"
in the dating game...because if you keep on doing the same
thing OVER AND OVER, you will just keep getting rejected OVER
AND OVER!

Think about it...if it didn't work the first time...
IT'S NOT GOING TO WORK THIS TIME!

what you should have instead is CREATIVE PERSISTENCE.
If something doesn't work, TRY SOMETHING ELSE. And if she
likes it, then BINGO - You've just scored another brownie!

Should I pay on a first date

2008-03-31T09:35:00.000+01:00

I am often asked, "Marius...do you usually pay on a
first date?"

Honestly, I don't mind paying, but I don't go out of
the way to pay either. If a woman pulls out her wallet at the
same time, I am not going to stop her from paying half.

Remember: You want to remain a challenge. Paying will
NOT increase a woman's attraction for you. She may think, "He's
a nice guy", but she's not going to think, "Oh! He bought me
dinner! I should sleep with him right now!"

In fact, she will probably think, "Oh crap. He just
bought me an expensive dinner. What does he expect in return?
Oh crap. I don't want to have to repay him in the backseat
of his car..."

Do you see how buying a woman expensive things can
actually CREATE resistance now? Women DON'T want to feel like
whores. Even if a woman is highly sexual, she doesn't want
you to feel like she's only having sex with you because you
bought her dinner!

Solution? Instead of trying to impress your date
with your money, focus on raising the SEXUAL TENSION
instead!

Remember: At the end of the day, attraction cuts
through EVERYTHING - even money.

Characteristics of a smart dater

2008-03-31T09:23:00.000+01:00

Here are a few "Smart Dater" characteristics:

1) The Smart Dater Shows No Fear: He is not vulnerable
to rejection from beautiful women. He is always confident and
relaxed, but never needy.

2) The Smart Dater Focuses On The Process: He does not
care about the results. He is merely interested in the PROCESS
of flirting with women because he enjoys the interaction, NOT
because he wants to "pick women up".

3) The Smarter Dater Goes Around Resistance: He does
not confront it because he knows that the more he pushes a
woman, the more she will PULL AWAY.

4) The Smarter Dater Uses Attraction As His Primary
Weapon: He knows that money, looks, and status are only
secondary.

5) The Smarter Dater Has A Structured Gameplan: He
discards things that do not work for him and only incorporates
ideas and techniques that do work for him.

6) The Smarter Dater Follows The Smart Dating Rules
Rigidly: He does not try to make up his own rules.

7) The smart Dater Is Always In Control OF Himself:
He never gives away any of his power, no matter how hot his
date may be.

8) The Smarter Dater Never Tolerates Bad Behavior:
He knows that the greatest power he has as a man is the power
to walk away from a bad relationship.

9) The Smarter Dater Is Charming And Sexual: He's
the real life James Bond.

10) The Smarter Dater is challenging and picky: He's
not the second best, but the BEST.

Can Alcohol give you more confidence

2008-03-31T09:21:00.000+01:00

Some of my readers have told me that they like to drink
before or during a date because it builds their confidence.

Personally, I don't think that's such a great idea.

More than a few of my past readers have gotten into
trouble while being drunk. One guy started puking in front of
his date. Another guy got his butt kicked after starting a
fight with another guy at a club.

Sure, these guys all thought they were "feeling"
confident. But in reality, they were acting like idiots.

A recent study shows that it actually takes women
LONGER to get drunk than a guy. So if you have just ONE drink
with a woman on a date, you could be acting like an idiot
while your date is COMPLETELY SOBER AND TURNED OFF BY YOUR
ACTIONS. This explains why some guys think they had a "great
date" and are surprised when their dates don't want to see
them again.

Here's the lesson of the day: Do NOT try to use
alcohol to give yourself more confidence. Don't rely on
booze to give you confidence. Work on your self-image
instead!

Dating, success challenge questions

2008-03-31T09:15:00.000+01:00

Today I'm going to challenge you with a few questions
that I would like to explore in your mind. You don't have to
tell anyone the answers. I would just like you to think about
these questions in your mind as they will help you define
who you are and where your "boundaries" are in life.

1) What's the craziest thing you've done?

2) If you could be anyone in this world, who would
you be?

3) What is your innermost secret?

4) What are you most underappreciated for?

5) What is the one thing you want the most in life?

6) What is the greatest thing you have done?

7) What is the most inexplicable thing you've ever
done?

8) What part of the female body fascinates you the
most?

9) What is the kinkiest thing you have done with a
woman?

10) Who is your "hottest" male friend?

11) Who is the most interesting man you have ever
met?

12) What do you love about yourself most?

13) Who is the person most similar to yourself in
this world?

14) What is your biggest dream or ambition?

15) If you could work in any profession in this
world, what would it be?

16) Who do you love the most in this world?

17) Who loves you the most in this world?

18) What are you the proudest of in life?

19) What's your favorite part of your own
body?

20) What's the thing you would like to change
the most in your life?

The reason I am asking these questions is because
your love life is often merely a REFLECTION of your life
in general. So think about these questions carefully!
Your answers may just surprise you!

ur important body language

2008-03-23T10:29:00.000+01:00

Today I'm going to show you the MOST important body
language signal you can ever give out to a woman.

It's not the way you walk.

It's not the way you stand.

It's not some hidden gesture you use during a
conversation to "seduce" her.

Your most important body language is merely...

YOUR SMILE!

Having a good smile can INSTANTLY make you more
likable or even sexier.

Politicians know this...

Actors know this.

And so do Smart Daters.

Unfortunately, most "shy guys" are too afraid or
nervous to smile in front of people. When they do, they
give a nervous or meek smile that screams out "WUSS".

Here's an exercise for you:

Go find a mirror and smile slightly. Smile the
way you would usually smile in front of strangers in
an unfamiliar environment.

Gee...it's not much, is it?

Now...I want you to make the BIGGEST smile
you can make. Imagine yourself as a famous celebrity,
radiating charm in front of forty thousand people at
the Superbowl. You're going need the BIGGEST smile
you can give so the audience at the back of the stadium
will be able to see it. Grin from ear to ear. Hold
this BIG smile for as long as you can.

Compare your new smile to your old smile...

Your NEW smile makes you look so much more
handsome and so much more confident, doesn't it?

Here's the assignment of the way:

I want you to practice smiling this new smile
every day from now on. Practice smiling in front of
the mirror every morning when you're getting ready for
school or work. Start the day with the BIGGEST smile
you can give yourself.

When you go out, I want you to SMILE every time
you walk into a room or into a nightclub. SMILE to the
bouncer. Pause and SMILE like a celebrity the moment
you step inside the club or party. SMILE at the people
around you. SMILE at the women you're approaching.

How to talk dirty in bed

2008-03-23T10:27:00.000+01:00

Lately I've been getting a lot of emails from guys
asking me what to say in the bedroom (Seems like a lot of people
have been scoring because of my newsletter and dating course!)
So today I am going to take some time to show you a few tips
on "how to talk dirty" in the bedroom.

1) Whatever you say in the bedroom should stay in the
bedroom ONLY. When you're in heat in a locked bedroom, you can
get away with a lot of things that might considered rude or
offensive elsewhere. If you say these things outside...watch
out.

2) Don't talk too dirty at the beginning. See how the
woman reacts. Every woman is DIFFERENT. Be a LITTLE raunchy
and see how she reacts. If she likes it, then turn it up.

3) Give her a few romantic compliments: Giving a woman
compliments in bed is different than giving her compliments
generally. You can get away with A LOT more. If you call
a woman beautiful while on a first date, you're just being a
wuss. But if you say "Damn you're so beautiful" in bed, then
it's all right.

Compliment ideas:

- "You look beautiful in your is so
" (Smooth, sweet, etc.)

- "You make me feel ."

4) Be descriptive. For example, describe what you're
doing to her.

5) Make eye contact: Make eye contact while you talk
to her. It will drive her wild.

6) Groan slightly when she does something to you.
This is the best compliment you can give to a woman in bed.

Lastly, if you don't have a girl right now, then you
owe it to yourself to download my "Smart Dating Course". It
is the ABSOLUTE FOUNDATION for everything I teach. You can
learn in a couple of hours all the things it took me YEARS
to figure out.

Table manners for first date

2008-03-23T10:26:00.000+01:00

Here are some "table manners tips" for you to follow next
time you're out on a date:

1) Do not play with the table utensils or crumble
the bread.

2) Do not put your elbows on the table.

3) Do not talk loud or boisterously.

4) Be cheerful in conduct or conversation.

5) Never cough or sneeze at the table.

6) Never tilt back your chair while at the table,
or at any other time.

7) Do not talk when the mouth is full.

8) Never make a noise while eating.

9) Do not open the mouth while chewing.

10) Don't scramble or mix food on the plate.
It's sick.

11) Eat soup with the side of the spoon, without
noise.

Remember: classy women like classy men!

How this can make or break a date

2008-03-23T10:25:00.000+01:00

Do women really need macho men

2008-03-23T10:21:00.000+01:00

Every week, I get the same question over and over:

"Do women like macho men?"

Here's my answer: Women just like MEN in general!

Notice how I've put "MEN" in capital letters.

Let me explain why...

You see, personally I think too many guys use the
"I don't want to act like a macho asshole" as an EXCUSE to
act like a wussbag in front of women...

What these guys don't understand that that to point
is NOT to act "macho" or stupid, but to act like a real MAN.
A MAN who gives off a raw, masculine kinda of energy.

Like I say all the time, if women were attracted to
nice, "girlie" men, they wouldn't be dating men in the first
place. They were be DATING EACH OTHER! And if they were
interested in someone to "share their feelings with", they
wouldn't need a BOYFRIEND, they could just call ANY of their
girl friends!

The only, only, only reason why a woman is interested
in a man is because...as my friend Anne-Marie puts it...

"I like dic*, not pu*sy."

Now...Anne-Marie may be a little bit blatant and direct,
but you get the idea. The ONLY reason why a woman is interested
in a MAN is because she wants a MAN.

By the way, the same concept applies to YOU too. You
probably like women because they are FEMININE. So even though
they are quite different than us...we APPRECIATE the
differences. Even though women yelp WAY too much, always show
up late on dates, and do silly things like watching sappy
movies and reading girlie magazines, we APPRECIATE them for
WHO THEY ARE.

Don't you agree? (Of course you do, unless you are
gay.)

So...here's the lesson of the day: Don't be afraid
of acting like a man. Just like we like women for who they
are, women like men for who they are, including the "stupid"
things we do. NEVER try to appease women by acting like
them. Instead of turning yourself into an effeminate
"Metrosexual male", just relax and be a natural man. A
NATURAL man who is NOT afraid of his own skin and NOT afraid
of being a man.

For example:

1) Don't feel guilty about your own sexuality.

2) Don't let anyone or anything stop you from
achieving your best.

3) Don't let your friends or family "feminize"
you. You were born a MAN, and that's who you should be.

4) Don't be afraid of being adventurous. Go and
climb the mountains of life.

5) Don't be afraid of doing "stupid" things that all
boys do. (Stupid pranks, etc) Just be safe and don't break
any laws or get anyone hurt.

6) Don't be afraid of acting like one of the boys.

7) Don't be afraid of flirting with women. Flirt
and tease as much as you can. Don't be afraid of making
advances at all. It's natural.

Women need men just like men need women. Just remember
that!

How to meet women at parties

2008-03-23T10:20:00.000+01:00

Today I am going to give you some KILLER tips on how
to meet women at parties:

1) SEARCH OUT PARTIES ACTIVELY

The more you party, the more likely you'll know
where the parties are. And the more parties you go to,
the more likely people will invite you next time. So make
it a habit to do something to expand your social circle
every weekend.

2) START CONVERSATIONS

Going to a party is useless if you're just going
to be a wallflower. Make sure you go out of your way
to talk to everyone and ANYONE - including guys AND
girls. You can never make too many friends.

3) MAKE CONTACT, NOT "CONTACTS"

Don't just try to meet as many people as you can.
Try to actually GET TO KNOW these people as much as you
can. How can you know if a woman is a good candidate
for a date if you don't talk to her first?

4) BE A GOOD LISTENER

Remember what I've taught you about holding
good conversations. Listen plenty, and ask the right
questions.

5) NEVER SIT WITH SOMEONE YOU KNOW

Avoid hanging out with your own buddies. Go
out and meet new people. That's the whole point of
going to these parties - to meet people.

6) LOOK FOR WALLFLOWERS

If you see a woman sitting by herself, go
introduce yourself to her. She may just be waiting
for someone to come up to talk to her.

7) USE THE FOOD TO BEGIN CONVERSATION

This one is my favorite. Take a bite, nod
your head like it's the most delicious piece of food
you've ever had, and then make a comment. Then use it
as a launching pad to start a conversation.

8) USE THE FOOD AS AN EXCUSE TO MOVE

Don't have too much food on your plate. This
way you can keep getting up and moving around.

9) FLIRT, FLIRT, FLIRT

Remember to be PLAYFUL and flirt with all
the ladies. This is VERY important.

10) TAKE WOMEN OUTSIDE / INTO ANOTHER ROOM

Once you've built a good rapport with a
woman, isolate her by taking her outside, to another
room, or to another place.

How to deal with bitchy women

2008-03-23T10:19:00.000+01:00

I am often asked, "How do you deal with bitchy women?
You know...hot women that are so full of themselves...they
humiliate you or ignore you every time you open your mouth
because they think they are above you?"

My answer is simple: You put them down.

These women DESERVE to be knocked down their pedestals.
In fact, you'd be doing the world a favor by doing what most
men are afraid to do: offending a beautiful (but bitchy) woman.

Here are a few tips:

1) Act like they don't mean anything to you. Whenever
they say something about you, just chuckle, as if you're saying,
"How stupid can she be?"

2) Tease them about their flaws. "Look at these heels.
How tall are you. 5 foot 1?"

3) Tease them about their actions. "You know...you're
such a cry baby when you do that." "What, daddy didn't show
you enough love when you were a kid or something?"

4) In a group sitting, interrupt them whenever they
open their mouths.

5) Throw in a little bit of sarcasm. "You know.
You're the nicest person I've met tonight."

6) Put her down when she acts cocky. For example,
is she boosts about being an actress, then you say, "Oh.
You mean you're an extra?"

7) When she insults you, thank her in amusement
as if she's just said the funniest thing in the world.

8) Be friendly and flirt with EVERY woman
AROUND her. Basically flirt with everyone EXCEPT her.
This will drive her crazy.

9) Disqualify her with questions. For example,
ask "Yeah yeah yeah. Well, can you cook? Well, too bad.
then."

10) Just when she's steaming, say "Whoa whoa whoa
lady. I am just joking here. But you know what I find
the funniest of all? How seriously you take yourself."
Then walk off and flirt with some other women in her view.

But of course, once you have read my "Smart Dating
Course", you won't be worrying about bitchy women anymore
because you will simply be...so popular with women.

Five types of women to avoid dating

2008-03-23T10:18:00.000+01:00

Here are 5 types of women that you should avoid dating if
you're interested in developing a healthy long-term relationship.

1) Chronic Cheater

Never date a chronic cheater. Even though attraction has
a lot to do with whether a woman cheats on you or not (a woman
will be less likely to cheat on you if she's CRAZY about you),
some women are more prone to cheating. It's just in their DNA/
character and they can't help it. The moment you turn your back
on her and a hot stud (or even a not-so-hot guy) walks by, she's
going to want him.

Remember my rules on dealing with cheaters in a long-
term relationship. First strike, you can give her another chance
if you're feeling forgiving. Second strike and she's out of
your life permanently, because the fact that she has cheated
on you AGAIN proves that you've already made the mistake the
first time.

2) Golddigger

Call me a cheapskate, but never spend more than $40 on
a date. A woman should offer to pay half of the time. And if
she dares to ask you to buy her expensive things, it's time to
lay the smack down and throw her out.

3) Baggage Girl

Baggage girls are even worse than golddiggers. Golddiggers
take your money, which you could always earn back by working hard
and working smart. But baggage girls drain you of your energy
until you end up feeling depressed like her.

Forget about playing the therapist or "saving" the girl you
like. You're her BOYFRIEND, not her "therapist" or "vent outlet".

Remember what I always say: Relationships are ALREADY hard
enough to sustain with a "healthy" woman, so dating a woman
with a lot of emotional baggage is like ASKING FOR TROUBLE. It's
like carrying a rigged time bomb around your pocket, not knowing
when it will explode.

4) Self-Proclaimed Princess

The self-proclaimed princess is a spoiled little brat who
is too used to getting everything (and anything) she wants in life.
Rich parents, good looks, plenty of suitors to appease her. She breaks
a nail and she wants you to drive her to the nail salon immediately.
Cooking and doing house chores are out of the question for her.
She just wants to sit there and be pampered to death.

You can date a princess if she is flexible and WILLING to fit
herself into YOUR world. But if she doesn't, then it's time to
kick her into the air, back to the top of the castle tower where
she belongs.

By the way, here's a side tip: Never date a woman whose
father calls her 'Princess.' Chances are she believes it.

5) Chronic Bitch

Women that are negative about everything in life are deadly.
They argue about EVERYTHING and once married, their favorite hobby is
making their men feel guilty.

What annoys women most

2008-03-23T10:17:00.000+01:00

Do you know what annoys women the most?

After working as a dating coach for a couple of years
and interviewing hundreds of women, I can tell you now:

It's a guy who just won't let go even though she has
already said "no" - over and over.

Way too many guys in this world just don't know
how to take "no" from a woman. They still continue to beg,
plead, cajole and appease...

When they don't stand a chance AT ALL.

Here are some of the MOST EXTREME cases I've worked
in the past:

- A man who thought a woman was "playing hard to get"...
until the POLICE showed up to drag him out of her front yard.

- A man who continued to harass a stranger he "loved"
after he had ALREADY received a restraining order.

Now...these cases are EXTREME and the men involved
should really go see a psychiatrist...but I can tell you
that MANY men across the world make the mistake of ANNOYING
WOMEN with their needy actions EVERY day...

For example...

1) They continue to call a woman even though she never
calls back.

2) They keep begging for their ex's to go back to
them.

3) They keep approaching a certain woman they like
even though she is IGNORING THEM already.

The further these guys push, the more women
PULL AWAY.

So...how do you prevent yourself from making the
same mistakes?

By ALWAYS gauging a woman's interest level before
you do ANYTHING. ALWAYS remember to use the flirt test I've
taught you. Flirt with every woman and see how they react
before you do ANYTHING else.

And if a woman doesn't flirt back, it's a MAJOR
sign you should move on...

But of course...there are ways that you can CREATE
attraction in a woman BEFORE she becomes annoyed with you.

What if she wants to be just a friend

2008-03-23T10:16:00.000+01:00

So what do you do if a woman wants to be "just friends"?

The first thing you do is to move on temporarily, or
at least give the impression that you have moved on.

Why? Because when a woman gives you the "let's just be
friends" line, it usually means:

1) She ALREADY knows you like her. (Chances are, you've
probably screwed up by telling her directly.)

2) She doesn't share the same feelings towards you.(Aka
she doesn't like you AT ALL.)

3) She's placing you in the negative zone for now. Keep
bugging her, and she will ignore you completely and not even
be your friend.

So...instead of making more of a fool out of yourself,
it's time to pull back.

It doesn't matter how much you like the woman. Remember:
it's how much SHE likes you, not how much YOU like her that counts.
And if she has told you she just wants to be "just friends", it
means she doesn't like you romantically at all.

Here is what you do:

You pull back from her and start dating or flirting with
other women in front of her. This will help you get out of the
negative zone. Then you start flirting subtly with her again
while being a COMPLETE challenge. If she flirts back, you flirt
more and advance half a step. Keep doing this until SHE is clinging
all over you.

How to switch from conversation to romance

2008-03-23T10:14:00.000+01:00

Today I'm going to teach you something that will have a
HUGE impact on your success with women.

After years of helping men becoming successful with
women, I've noticed a MAJOR barrier that a lot of men encounter
when they are advancing with a woman.

They don't know how to switch from having an "emotional
connection" with a woman to "making her want you."

For example, they may have a GREAT conversation with
a woman, but they have NO IDEA how to "take it to the next level."

So...how do you advance physically once you're having
a great, serious conversation with a woman?

The key is to DROP the serious conversation and lighten
it up with jokes suddenly. Fool around and crack a few jokes.
Maybe do some role-playing and tease her a bit.

The point is to get the woman AWAY from "serious mode".
(I call this "emotional state switching") Just let the conversation
lighten up as you CRANK UP THE FLIRTING and initiate more
physical contact with her.

For example, draw her body closer to you as you soften
your voice and act more like a lover instead of a friend. Then
suddenly switch to sexual mode and give her a sexual compliment,
such as "You know, you have beautiful hair." or "Umm...your neck
smells really nice."

How to use the teasing kiss

2008-03-23T10:13:00.002+01:00

Here's a nice kissing technique for you to try out.

Next time your kiss a woman, start the kiss off slow
with absolutely NO tongue at all. Just keep kissing her lightly
and lightly, as if you're teating her lips. Then gradually
kiss her more intensively as you're losing control of yourself.
Give her some tongue and french with her passionaely.

Then PULL BACK, lean over, give her a small peck
on the cheek, and PULL AWAY COMPLETELY.

Do this right, and she will ache for more. Use this as
an opputurnity to "advance to the next stage".

For more techniques you can use to make women CRAZY
for you, check out my "Smart Dating Course. It's the BEST
investment you can make in your love life, period.

So don't lose out!

How to get ur girl back

2008-03-23T10:13:00.001+01:00

I often get emails from readers asking how they can
"get their groove back" after getting out of a long-term
relationship or after hitting a "slump" with women due to
a busy work or study schedule. So today I'm going to give
you ten quick tips on how to get active in the dating scene
again.

1) SEE YOUR BUDDIES: Go out for a couples of boys
nights out. After being isolated from the world for so long,
it's time for you to sit down with a couple of buddies just
like the old times. This will help you become more sociable.

2) EXPAND YOUR SOCIAL CIRCLE: Next, you need to expand
your social circle and make NEW friends. Go to parties, join
a few clubs...go volunteer somewhere. I guarantee you will
meet many women on the way.

3) LEARN TO FLIRT: This is VERY important. From now on,
you should be flirting with every girl you meet - just for fun.

4) BE PLAYFUL: This goes hand in hand with flirting.
Personally, I think this is the MOST important thing to do if
you would like to get your groove back. After being out of the
game for so long, chances are you've probably forgotten how to
be playful. So work on getting your playful self back.

5) ERASE THE PAST: You can't exactly move on with your
life if you're still hung onto the idea of getting your
ex back. So MOVE ON. Always look towards your FUTURE, not
your past.

6) TAKE THINGS SLOWLY: Don't hurry into another
relationship yet. Enjoy your single life. See it as a FREEDOM
you have earned!

7) CLEAN UP YOUR HOUSE: Reorganize your furniture.
Throw out all the "old stuff" you have. This will help you
remove the excessive baggage in your life and make room for
the new.

8) SEE BEYOND: Go out and smell the fresh air. See
what a beautiful world this is. Life is more than JUST
about love. You've gotta understand that before you can
get into another relationship.

9) RAISE YOUR STANDARDS: Raise your standards and
be pickier with the women you stay. Only date girls that
are BETTER than your ex.

10) GO TO THE GYM: Working out can make you feel
better about yourself.

And most important of all...

GO OUT AND MEET WOMEN.

Just sitting around HOPING that something will happen
or that you'll "get lucky" isn't going to do it. I can
GUARANTEE you that.

You'll either wind up ALONE for a VERY long time...
or you'll wind up with a woman that you don't really enjoy
that much...which means you're going to be trapped in
another "painful situation" down the road.

How to develop a magnetic personality

2008-03-23T10:10:00.000+01:00

Today I am going to show you how to develop a more
magnetic personality to increase your success with women.

Add the following magnetic qualities to your
personality:

1) HUMOROUS: Funny people are ALWAYS more charismatic
than people that are too serious. Funny = Exciting;
Serious = Boring, get it?

2) AMBITIOUS: Charismatic men are often driven and
hardworking in their pursuit of their impossible dreams.
On the other hand, insecure men set goals that are
really small because they are afraid of not reaching them.
(That's if they set any goals at all.)

3) INTUITIVE: Charismatic men are often good "people-
readers". They can read situations and people with ease
and build rapport with anyone quickly.

4) PLAYFUL: Charismatic men aren't afraid to flirt and
be playful.

5) CREATIVE: Charismatic men are often creative rather than
"just practical". They have big dreams and a vivid
imagination. They can capture your heart with their
ideas, philosophies, and dreams.

6) ADVENTUROUS: Charismatic men are always looking to
live their lives to their fullest.

7) SOCIAL: Charismatic men are comfortable talking to
anyone about anything. They make friends easily. It is
no wonder they connect with women with ease - because
they can connect with ANYONE at ease.

8) UNPREDICTABLE: You never quite know what these wild
boys will do next.

9) OPTIMISTIC: Nobody likes cynical assholes. Be
optimistic about everything, and people will like you
more. Remember: there is a sunny side in every situation.

10) LAIDBACK: Charismatic men don't wear their hearts
on their sleeves. They are relaxed in every situation
and don't let anything get to them.

Nice eye contact trick

2008-03-23T10:09:00.002+01:00

Here's another nice eye-contact trick for ya. (Don't
you just love these?)

Next time you're with a girl, increase your eye contact
with her to about eighty percent of the time when you talk to her.
Try to look DEEPLY into her eyes and even through it. Of course,
you don't have to count how many seconds you have to look at her.
Simply let your eyes be glued to hers a little longer, even
during the silences; and when you finally must look away, drag
your eyes away slowly as if you're feeling quite reluctantly, and
look back at her again as soon as you can.

If you do this correctly, it will shoot the energy level
way up to the moon!

Know ur body language

2008-03-23T10:09:00.001+01:00

I've got a question for you: Do you know how you
REALLY sound and how you REALLY act?

Do the following assignments to find out:

1) RECORD YOURSELF TALKING: Use a tape recorder or your
computer to record yourself talking. Then play it back
and listen to your voice. See if it's:

1) Resonant

2) Deep and relaxed

3) Clear

4) Slow

2) RECORD YOURSELF ON FILM:

Next, get a video camera (borrow one from a friend
if you don't have one) and tape yourself walking, sitting, and
having conversations. Or even better, get a friend to film
yourself at a social gathering. Then play the tape and watch
yourself on video. Watch your own body language and ask yourself
if you're satisfied.

Here are a couple of things to look for:

1) Your posture

2) Your positions (laid back, etc)

3) Your energy (charming, nervous, etc)

4) Your gestures

5) Your speed

Try to pinpoint your own weaknesses so that you can
improve on them.

This stuff is CRUCIAL to your success.

I wouldn't have taken all the time, effort, and energy
to include a whole chapter on voice tone and body language in
my "Smart Dating Course" if they weren't important.

10 ways to project supreme confidence

2008-03-23T10:04:00.001+01:00

Here's a reprint of one of the only 3 articles that I
reprint on my newsletter every year. (I do it for all the new
subscribers on the list because it is that important.) Here
it is:

Today, I'm going to teach you 10 techniques you can use
to project SUPREME CONFIDENCE while on a first date. (Remember:
If you don't show confidence on a first date, you'll NEVER get a
second date.)

1) Don't Ask, Lead

This one is VERY important. A lot of guys ask stupid
things like "Would you like to go to this restaurant?", "Can I
go to the bathroom", or even worse, "Can we do this again some
other time?"

And they wonder why they never get a second date!

Listen, buddy. Confident men do NOT ask women for
permission to do ANYTHING. They JUST do it. They don't ask for
a kiss. They don't ask for a second date. They don't ask for
ANYTHING.

So next time you go out on a date...please...JUST LEAD
THE WAY. Instead of asking "Can we...", just say "let's..." and
lead her by the arm.

But never, never, NEVER ask a woman ANYTHING. Remember,
boys: If a woman doesn't like something, she will make sure
you know.

2) Avoid Giving a Direct "Yes".

This is a VERY good idea to stay in control while out
on a date. If a woman asks you for something, don't just give
it to her like all the other pussy guys out there. Make her
WORK for it. (Remember, psychology tells us that we appreciate
the things we have to WORK for MUCH more than the "freebies".)

For example...if she asks, "Can we go to Japanese?"
Don't just say "yes." Say..."Maybe...", or be funny and
tease her, "I don't know, only good girls get treated to
Japanese. Are you a nice girl?"

Or if she asks, "Can we sit over there?", instead of
just following her ass like most guys would, grow some
spine and say, "No. I'd rather sit here. It's a much nicer
view here."

The key is to start getting you to act like a MAN.

3) Don't let her "interview" you.

If you want a second date, then you better not let
your woman "interview" you. Women love to interview men on a
first date...so they can weed out all the losers. And guess
what? That means if you screw up on just ONE question...
you're a GONER. G-O-N-E-R. Goner.

And this is EXACTLY why you shouldn't let her interview
you in the first place. Whenever she asks things like "So
what do you do" or "How much do you make?", just give her a
silly answer...like..."Why, are you one of those superficial
women? How much do YOU make?"

Whatever she says, just TURN IT AROUND playfully.

4) Lift up Your Chest, Tuck Your Tummy In

Want to project confidence physically? Do what Sergeant
Marius says in Bootcamp, "Chest up, tummy in, boys."

This will NATURALLY put you in a confident position.

Ever seen a marine walk? That's how I want you
to walk. Chest up, tummy in, soldier!

5) End The Date Early

So the date has been going really well and there's
a LOT of chemistry between you and your new love.

End it now.

I am serious. I want you to ALWAYS end the date early
to keep the power in YOU. Make your date wonder why you have
to go. Make her WANT to go with you again.

Most guys just drag a good date on and on until
it becomes a bad date. Don't be one of them. Be a man and
have the power and self-control to end it early.

6) Don't Let Her Challenge You

If you act like a wussy and back down whenever a woman
challenges you, her attraction for you is going to drop
faster than an apple dropping down from a tree. Most guys make
the mistake of thinking they should never risk "offending"
a woman by showing her their spines.

WRONG.

Never bow down to a woman you like. Don't suck up to
her whenever she challenges you. Because if you do, she's going
to lose respect for you as a potential boyfriend or lover.

So next time a woman challenges you, have some spine
and stand up for yourself.

For example...

If a woman tries to challenge you or to seduce you by
staring into your eyes, stare back. Don't look away until SHE does.
(The moment you look away and blush in shyness, she's going to
lose respect for you as a man and find another man who's
stronger.)

7) Don't Talk About A Second Date

Never talk about a second date while you're still on
the first date. Be a challenge - don't act like a eager beaver.

Remember my golden rule: Take it one date at a time.

8) Don't Tell Her You Like Her

Never, never, NEVER tell a woman you like her. Don't
EVER try to "express your feelings for her". That is worse
than ripping your own spine out and strangling yourself
with it. I am not kidding. Once it's out in the open that you
like her, half the game is over. SHE will have all the power,
not you.

Girls love trying to figure out if a guy likes them or not.
It's part of the dating game. So don't take it away from them!

9) Let Her Think She's Not The Only One

If she asks you if you're seeing anybody else, don't
freak out and say, "No. Just you." Be a MAN and be a CHALLANGE.
Say something like, "Well, I have a couple of possible prospects
right now. We'll see who wins." Then flash her a smile.

10) Be In Control From The Beginning To The End

This is extremely important. If you're taking a girl out,
even casually, then you should be literally taking her out and
giving her a good time. You shouldn't be seeking her permission
every step of the way. You should be SWEEPING HER OFF HER FEET
instead. She's in YOUR WORLD now - give her a good reason to
stay there.

Assignment:

Okay. Here's an assignment: I want you to go out and
start APPLYING THESE TECHNIQUES IN THE REAL WORLD. You
could read every article I send to you...but if you never
go out into the REAL WORLD to practice...you might as well
just click on that removal link at the end of this email
now. Because if you have no intention of becoming a more
confident man, I don't want you on my list.

You can't help this

2008-03-23T10:01:00.000+01:00

When you were young, you were probably taught that
you shouldn't judge a book by its cover.

But unfortunately, you WILL be judged that way. It's
just human nature. We can't help it.

So here are some tips on how you can make sure your
"cover" will always be at its best:

1) Always be properly groomed. ALWAYS.

2) Work on your social manners.

3) Always make eye-contact when you talk. Don't break
eye-contact until you do.

4) ALWAYS show the "correct behavior" when you're
with a woman. (Remember what I've taught you in my
"Are Women Psychic?" article!

5) Always smell good.

6) Always speak slowly, clearly, and confidently.

7) Have good posture. Take Yoga classes if you have
to. (Hey - It's a GREAT place to meet women.)

8) Have GOOD breath. Or women will NOT want to
talk to you at all.

9) Always be charming when you meet a new person.
Trust me. First impressions LAST a LIFE TIME.

10) Be as successful with your life as you possibly
can. I know this one sounds shit**, but it's the hard truth.
Successful people DO have it easier, and why shouldn't they?
They have worked hard for it.

While these rules will sound simple, you would be
at how many guys actually break them without even knowing it!

My view on long distant relationship

2008-03-23T10:00:00.000+01:00

what is my view on long-distance relationships?

I don't like them at all.

In my experience, distance almost ALWAYS kills
attraction, and most long distance relationships DO fail in
the long run. (Probably around 90 percent.) So unless you've
already been going out with a girl for a LONG time, do NOT
start a long-distance relationship with her. It will NOT be
worth it.

At the end of the day, the outcome of your long-
distance relationship will depend on your MUTUAL attraction.
It means the attraction on BOTH ends has to stay HIGH. If your
attraction for her falls, then you won't want to have a
relationship with her anymore. The same goes for her. If her
attraction for you falls too low, she won't want to commit
to the relationship either. She'll probably start screwing
around with other guys behind your back. How well she behaves
while you're away will mostly depend on how much she is attracted
to you.

Loyalty is also important. Some girls are more loyal
than others. HOWEVER, I wouldn't count on this one because
it's out of your control. When your girlfriend is alone across
the sea and her very friendly (and well-hung) roommate opens
up a bottle of nice wine and invites her to taste it with him,
it won't take too long until the are cuddling in front of the
fireplace. It's just very hard for women to say "no" in this
kind of situation...when there's nobody around to rat on her.

Lesson of the day: If you're going to enter a long-
distance relationship, know what you're going into. You've
been warned!

And oh...here's a reminder...in addition to my free
email newsletter, I also have a killer downloadable course
called the "Smart Dating Course". It's literraly JAM PACKED
with dozens and dozens of SPECIFIC TECHNIQUES that you can
use RIGHT NOW to increase your success with women.

I've spent a lot of time, effort, and energy in
creating this system. I believe that ANY guy can use the
"Smart Dating Course" to IMMEDIATELY start meeting and
dating women...without having to "hyponize" them,
"manipulate them", or any of that junk.

How to act when woman likes you

2008-03-23T09:58:00.000+01:00

So how should you act when a woman likes you? This is a
topic that I'm going to cover in the next couple issues of my
newsletter.

The FIRST thing you should do when you find out a woman
likes you is to ask yourself HONESTLY if you like her at all.
Very often I see a guy flattered by receiving such attention from
a woman and start dating her just for the sake of having a girl.
Of course, eventually he becomes "attached" to the FEELING of having
a woman - even though he never "really" liked THIS particular
woman in the first place.

Weeks pass, months fly by, and the poor guy starts to get
unhappier and unhappier as he looks at all the other women
around him. He wants to leave the relationship badly, but he
is absolutely terrified of breaking up due to his emotional
attachment. Even worse, he has become so accustomed to having
a woman in his life that he would rather stay in a lousy
relationship than to look for a new mate. (Can we say
"pussywhipped"?)

Sounds a little extreme? Let me tell you that it happens
ALL THE TIME.

You see...

In human psychology, the fear of loss is ALWAYS greater
than the desire for gain. Most guys would rather stay with what
they ALREADY have rather than risking it for the possibility
of getting something greater.

The result is they stay with a woman they never REALLY
liked...and the relationship eventually turns into a nasty
breakup or a BAD marriage.

Don't fall into this trap. I'm not telling you to
breakup with your girlfriend or to not have one-night stands at
all. If you have one-night stands, just make sure they are
casual flings unless "real" feelings (not just infatuation)
develop. The point is to be careful BEFORE you enter a "REAL"
relationship with a woman. Have at least 9-10 dates before
you ask a woman to become your girlfriend. Date her for awhile
before you get too serious and talk about moving in.

Here's a golden rule for you to follow: If you have ANY
second thoughts about your feelings for a woman, then you
probably do NOT like her enough. For example, if you have to
sit down with a beer and think about whether you like a
woman or not, then the answer is "No, you don't."

Take this lesson to your heart. As a dating coach, I've
heard WAY too many horror stories from guys that have gotten
together or even married with the FIRST woman who showed
affection for them. It's a mistake that a lot of "inexperienced"
guys make. They would rather have ANY woman than no woman at all,
and once they get their first woman, they try to cling on to her
because they don't want to be alone again.

Don't let yourself make the same mistake!

Last time we talked about the first thing you should do
when you find out a woman likes you. (Which is to ask yourself
HONESTLY if you like her too or not.) Today, I am going to show
you what you should do assuming you DO like her back.

First of all, here are a couple of things you should
NOT do:

1) DON'T TELL HER YOU LIKE HER: Don't tell a woman
you like her, even if she likes you. It's UTTERLY USELESS!
Too many guys confess their feelings to a woman as soon as
they find out she likes them. Then they wonder what has
happened when she suddenly losing interests in them. If
you're a frequent reader of my newsletter or a owner of
my "Smart Dating Course", you should know why. (Hint:
Lack of challenge!)

2) DON'T START ACTING "DIFFERENTLY": A lot
of guys suddenly act "all serious" as soon as they find
out a woman likes them too. Playful flirting becomes
serious vow-making; Casual dates become serious business.
In short, the "cool" guy the woman once liked has turned
into a needy little boy that tries every trick in the
book to please her.

Listen: If a girl is interested in you, it means
she is attracted to who you are RIGHT NOW. So stop doing
stupid things to impress her. Focus on keeping the
chemistry high instead.

3) ASKING FOR COMMITMENT TOO EARLY: Every woman
likes to have fun, but nobody likes making decisions too
early on. So do NOT ask for commitment verbally as soon
as you find out a woman likes you.

Have you ever read "Romeo and Juliet"? You know
the line "What's in a name?" (You should - women love
cultured guys.) I personally think the line applies
perfectly to dating as well.

When two people are happy together, then they
are happy. There should to NO HURRY to label the
relationship with a title. Titles mean JACK. You
could be "officially together" with a woman who cheats
on you every time you turn your back, or you could
casually "hang out" with a girl who's so crazy about
you she thinks about you 24/7.

When the time for commitment comes, you will
both know it. When the time comes to become a couple,
you will both know it. (It will probably happen
naturally.) So don't push for commitment or for a date
to become your girlfriend too early on - even if she
appears to like you a lot.

Now that you know what NOT to do, tomorrow
I'll show you what you SHOULD do. I'll show you exactly
how to act to keep beautiful women interested in you.
So stay tuned!
As promised, today I am going to teach you how to
KEEP a woman interested in you after you've started going
out with her.

1) GIVE HER FUN: No matter how long you've been
with a woman, she still wants to have FUN.

2) GIVE HER ROMANCE: When I mean romance, I don't
mean giving her flowers and gifts. I mean FLIRTING with her
and TEASING HER. You know...doing the things that raise the
SEXUAL CHEMISTRY.

3) GIVE HER ATTENTION: Even if you're a busy guy,
you STILL have to be attentive. This means calling and
seeing her every once in awhile and noting all the details
about her.

4) GIVE HER CHALLENGE: Never become "pussy-whipped".
Never be completely "won".

5) TALK TO HER: Have at least one good talk every week.
Maybe before bed. Maybe when you're walking in the park. This
will help you solidify the bond with her. I don't care how
busy you're with work. If you can't even spare an hour on
your girlfriend once a week, then it's really your fault if
the relationship turns sour.

6) GIVE HER EXCITEMENT: Do NOT fall into a routine.
Keep things fresh by doing different things ALL the time.
Go to different places for dates. Go to different restaurants.
Do crazy things, but never settle down into a boring routine.

Here's a good rule to follow: Never do the same
thing twice. Always look for something NEW to do, and the
dates will always be exciting.

Follow these tips, and her attraction for you will
stay high.

How to dance on a night club

2008-03-23T09:57:00.000+01:00

Dancing is a great way to meet new people. Especially
dancing in a nightclub, where people are just waiting for
someone to dance with them. Nowadays, nightclubs play any music
from pop and jazz, Hip-hop and R&B, to techno and rave. It all
depends on what club you choose. Choose the ones that you think
you are familiar with the songs.

Dancing is easy; getting someone to dance with you is
the "hard" part. (Though it's really not that hard at all once
you're used to it.) If you're not shy, try this. Start dancing on
the dance floor and move towards the girl you want to dance
with. Or you can do it the old fashioned way, where in you
just simply ask the girl to dance with you.

Here are some simple tips on dancing.

1. The most important tip of all is to be confident.
2. Make eye contact when you're slow dancing. It's much more
romantic.
3. Don't exaggerate when you're just a mediocre dancer. You
would just make yourself look stupid.
4. Try to dance with the song and follow a beat.
5. If the song is hip-hop, try imitating your partner's moves
so you two would take attention.
6. If the song is salsa, try to look and feel sexy, and go
with the flow.
7. Give her some space and try not to feel her up - UNLESS she
is feeling YOU up.
8. In slow dancing, be bold and be sensitive. Hold her close
to your body and try rubbing her back. Watch her reactions
to this. If you think she doesn't like, stop.
9. If the place is crowded, try to dance small and don't hog
the space.
10. Un-necessary hand, arm, upper-body, and head movement is a
no-no. If it doesn't feel appropriate for the song just leave
it out.
11. Keep your feet under your body, and try not to make too big
steps.
12. Try impressing your partner with a few moves of your own.
13. Don't dance to the beat of every song. Try dancing to the
melody and the lyrics.
14. Try to drink a quarter OF glass of beer if you're nervous.
It can make you loosen up on the dance floor. But just a
QUARTER of a beer. NO MORE.
15. Try not to impress the whole club. Focus on your partner.
Unless you're dancing with your FRIENDS. In that case, be
impressive.
16. Wear comfortable shoes. Trust me, your feet are going to
hurt after a few hours if you don't.
17. If you don't have any idea how to dance, try following the
beat and side step and snap your fingers, and move your
shoulders.
18. Always feel good about yourself and your partner would
fell well about you to.

Use these tips on the dance floor and really shake it out.
Then when she's tired and wants to talk, go get a drink and take
her some place quieter. It's time to turn on the flirting and
see if anything happens.

Do women have a sixth sense

2008-03-23T09:56:00.000+01:00

One of the biggest misconceptions about dating
is that women are somehow "more intuitive" than men.

Throughout history, humans have always tried to use the
supernatural to explain things that are mysterious to them.
Even in today's scientific world, there are still many men who
believe that women have a "special sixth sense". For example,
people always say women can "tell" if a guy is a "player" or
if he's an "insecure little boy."

After working as a dating coach for several years, I can
assure you that this is NOT true.

Women are NOT any more "psychic" than man.

They do NOT possess ANY insight towards men
any more than you do towards them. They do NOT know if
you're "lying" or "playing mind games".

"Sixth sense" is a myth.

Some of you may be thinking, "No way, Marius. I'm
sure women have a sixth sense because they can always sense
the insecurity from a guy a mile away."

And you know what? There is NOTHING psychic about
this.

Just like ALL humans, women judge guys by looking at
their PHYSICAL BEHAVIORS. They CANNOT read your thoughts any
better than you can read theirs. The ONLY information they can
rely on is based on your BEHAVIOUR.

Let's go back to the insecure guy as an example. When
he goes to a party, he:

1) Hides in a corner.

2) Avoids eye contact.

3) Never initiates conversations.

4) Blush when women talk to him.

5) Speaks so quietly you can barely hear him.

6) Gets himself attached to a friendly woman like a
little puppy.

7) Happily obeys whatever other people request
him to do.

...and so on.

Do you REALLY have to be a "psychic" to know that
this guy is not the most confident guy on earth?

I DON'T THINK SO!

Here's the lesson of the day: People judge you
according to your BEHAVIOUR. They don't know what you're
thinking. They only know how you are ACTING. So it doesn't
matter if you're the sexiest or the most caring guy "deep
inside" when you're ACTING like a WUSSBAG or a LOSER.
Women can't read your mind. They make their opinions about
you based on your ACTIONS.

This is why it is so important for you to BEHAVE
CORRECTLY in front of women. I want you to do the following
exercise:

Pick someone you know who's VERY good with women
and OBSERVE his behavior. Next, pick someone who's
ABSOLUTELY HORRIBLE with women and observe how he acts
when he is around women. You will see my point VERY quickly.

Another exercise is to go through the "Self-
checklist" bonus in my "Smart Dating Course". It is intended
to "optimize" your behavior and keep you on the right
track so that you can have your highest level of success
with women month after month. (Too many guys "get lazy"
after awhile.)

And if you don't have the "Smart Dating Course"
yet, then you need to get it NOW because if you aren't
having the kind of success with women you would like
to have right now...chances are it's because you're
NOT behaving correctly in front of the ladies.

What to do when a woman flakes out

2008-03-23T09:55:00.002+01:00

So you've successfully got a woman's phone number and a
date with her. But the day before you're supposed to hang out,
she suddenly gives you a call and tells you she can't make it
anymore because of . What can you
do besides slamming the phone down in anger?

Here are a few tips on what to do when a woman
flakes out on you:

1) Understand that she has probably flaked out on you
due to her LOW ATTRACTION LEVEL for you. If a woman likes you
"enough", she will NOT play these flake-out games. And if
she REALLY, REALLY likes you, she'll drop whatever she's
doing to CHASE AFTER you. So the fact that she is flaking out
on you shows that:

a) She doesn't have that much interest in you.

b) She doesn't have a lot of respect for you as a
potential lover.

Solution? Flirt with women plenty and build up the
chemistry BEFORE you ask for their numbers or for dates.

2) If a woman flakes out and gives you a "B.S. excuse",
act like you can SEE THROUGH her B.S. and tell her to just
come out without even blinking your eyes.

Examples:

"Yeah yeah yeah. Coming out will make your headache
better, okay. I'll meet you at 7. Bye."

"Well, cancel it. I'm more fun."

3) If she gives a VALID reason (funeral, etc) then you
can give her another chance, provided that she COUNTER-OFFERS
by setting up another date right away. But if she tells you
that she's "not sure yet" or will have to "get back to you",
you can be certain that she's not very interested in you at all.
In this case, just throw her number away.

4) Even if she has a valid reason, don't be afraid of
sounding just a bit little "dissapointed" in her behaviour.
Don't get angry or raise your voide. Instead, sound "dissapointed"
because she is falling below your expectations. (If you're
too "nice" every time, her respect for you will eventually drop
to zero.)

Nice conversation opener

2008-03-23T09:55:00.001+01:00

Today's tip will be very short. I'm going to give you
one of my favouriter conversation openers.

Next time you're out with a woman, I want you to ask
her, "If you didn't have to worry about money and could do
anything in the world, what would you want to do?"

I bet you'll find out more about her on a first date
than most guys ever will in a lifetime!

How to talk to a woman

2008-03-23T09:53:00.000+01:00

Here's a nice technique that I've invented "by accident".

A few years ago, I was trying to play Cupid and get a
couple of my buddies hooked up with the women they liked. I
found out what women they had a crush on and approached these
women myself with the intention of getting to know them and
finding out information that my friends could use to attract
them.

However, the plan backfired on me...BIG TIME. Instead
of helping my friends get these women...I ended up "stealing"
almost every single one of them myself by accident.

For example, once I got into a small chat with a nice
lady that I knew my friend liked. A 15-minute chat soon turned
into a 6-hour conversation and a short relationship. (I still
feel bad about this today...even though I DID bow out and help
my friend get her in the end.)

This happened over and over...until I said, "This has
got to stop...", took a step back, and saw what I was doing wrong.
(Or "right", I guess.)

I was:

1) Trying to find out about their innermost dreams,
ambitions and the feelings attached to them. (Remember...my
original intention was to pass on this information to my
buddies.)

2) Flirting with them in different ways to see what
they responded to best. (So my buddies could do the same
thing.)

3) Not acting interested in them myself. Instead, I
kept saying good things about my friends with the intention of
hooking them up. (Now I know that I was merely being a challenge
to these women by doing this.)

It turned out by developing what I now call a "genuine
curiosity" about these women, I was attracting them to me like
fruit flies. (I was the grapefruit, haha!)

I have since adapted this technique for my personal
use. Here is how YOU can use it today:

Next time you're talking to a woman, I want you to
develop the SAME genuine curiosity about them. Pretend you're
trying to hook a buddy up and don't expect anything for yourself.
(I guess you could almost call this a variation of the
"Dissociation Technique" from the Smart Dating Course.)

Be naturally curious about them and be playful about it...
like how you would act if you were talking to your best friend's
girlfriend for him.

Have that sly smile on your face as you push around for
her buttons so that you can help your "imaginary friend" attract
her.

How to act on a date

2008-03-23T09:52:00.000+01:00

So now that you have successfully gotten a first date
with a woman, what should you do on your first date?

Here are some quick "first-date tips" for you:

1) Flirt, Flirt, Flirt:

Too often I see (or hear about) guys going out on a
first date and then acting all "nice" and quiet.

BORING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Listen. The ONLY thing that makes a romantic
relationship a ROMANTIC relationship different than a
"normal" friendship is the ROMANCE, and romance comes
from SEXUAL CHEMISTRY.

It's a simple formula...

No chemistry = No Romance

Get it?

So remember...drive up the sexual chemistry AS MUCH
AS YOU CAN by flirting with your date and teasing her. This
is VERY important.

2) Stay In Control:

"Nice guys" tend to "lose control" on a date by
sucking up to women and asking for permission for EVERYTHING.
"Examples: "Do you like ______________", "Can I give you a
good night kiss?", "Should we seat over there?", "Would you
like me to _________".)

If you want to make a woman feel you're actually a
MAN (which is what women want, just like a WOMAN - not a
guy - is what WE want), and not "one of her girlfriends",
then you need to start TAKING CONTROL now.

EVERYONE wants LEADERSHIP, and I am not even talking
about dating. This is basic human psychology. Most people on
this earth, including women, would rather BE LED than to be
lead.

So if you want to stand out from other guys,
become a leader and stop asking for permission for everything
you do. If you want to do something, JUST DO IT. If she hates
it, she will let you know. There's no use seeking her approval
for ANYTHING. The more you seek a woman's approval, the LESS
she will respect you, get it?

3) Be A Challenge:

Remain a challenge and tease your date throughout
the evening. Remember the "sexual tension fishing line"?
Keep reeling her in closer and closer without giving too
much slack or breaking the line.

4) Advance Physically:

Don't be too pushy; but don't be too passive either.
When you're dating a woman, you HAVE to keep advancing or
you're out. I don't care how shy you may be. Chances are,
if you don't advance, her excitement and attraction for
you will go away and you will never get another chance
again.

5) Bond With Her: Something that a lot of guys
forget to do is to bond with the women they date
emotionally and intellectually.

Flirting and teasing work A LOT better when you're
ALREADY bonded with a woman intellectually and emotionally.

I discovered this back when I was working as a
"wingman" for my friends and trying to hook them up
with women. As I talked to the women my friends were
interested in and tried to get the information that my
buddies could use to attract them (their dreams, etc),
these women would suddenly all become attracted to ME
instead of to my friends.

How to get phone numbers from women

2008-03-23T09:51:00.000+01:00

Last time I promised to teach you how to get a
phone number from a woman. So here it is:

The method I use to get phone numbers is quite unique.
Instead of "going for a number directly" like most men do
(after hesitating for minutes, days, or even weeks) I first
gauge a woman's interest level BEFORE I ask for her digits. No
matter I am meeting women at a party or at a bus stop, I ALWAYS
start a conversation and gauge her interest level before
asking for her phone number.

To gauge a woman's interest level, I merely suggest
she should hang out with me and then watch her reaction
closely.

For example, if I find out a woman likes to go rock-
climbing, I'll suggest going climbing with her some time.
If she seems receptive of the idea, then I'll close for her
number directly. But if she doesn't seem to be fond of the
idea, then I know I'll either have to work on her some more
or just move on.

Using this method, I can get phone numbers from women
without ever putting anyone on the spot. The success rate is
also higher because I'm building a connection BEFORE I close
for her digits.

How to get a girl friend in 9 steps

2008-03-23T09:50:00.000+01:00

Here's how you can get a girlfriend in 9 easy steps:

1) Turn off your computer and go out. Expand your social
circle as much as you can - I guarantee you will meet MANY
women on the way. Join a few hobby clubs, go to house parties...
or even get a volunteering job somewhere. I don't care how you do
it. JUST GO OUT AND MAKE AS MANY FRIENDS AS POSSIBLE.

2) Flirt with every woman you meet - even if they are
60 year old's. Let go of all of your expectations and just
flirt with women to give them pleasure, not to get anything in
return. (As some of my Christian readers have told me, flirting
is a way of "giving", not a way of getting. Having this mindset
will give you GREAT success with women.)

3) Tease women using the techniques you've learned from
my column.

4) Act like a complete challenge.

5) When you come across a woman you would like to meet,
get into a conversation with her and don't leave until you have
asked for her phone number. It doesn't matter if you get it or
not. Just do it for practice.

6) Once you have the number, go out on a first date and
have fun. Focus on building the sexual chemistry. Remember to
end the date early.

7) Ask her out again a couple of days later. Keep going
out with her. Take it "one date at a time." Just focus on
building the chemistry and do not talk about getting together
AT ALL.

8) As you continue to date her, remember to keep on
advancing physically. Hold her hand, kiss her, stroke her hair,
and cuddle with her. It doesn't matter if you kiss her on the
first date or on the fifth date, as long you keep advancing
forward.

9) Have 7-10 dates with her. If the energy is good,
at the end of the 10th date give her a kiss on the lips and
ask her to become your girlfriend. (This does NOT have to
be your first kiss, of course!)

Don't call a woman until you ve read this

2008-03-23T09:47:00.002+01:00

Don't call a woman until you've read the following
rules:

1) Don't call to Chit-Chat: The longer you talk,
the more likely the conversation will become
boring. Don't risk it. Keep all conversations
short.

2) Call Only To Make A Date: When you call a
woman, you only call to make a date. Wait until the
date for everything else!

3) Talk Slowly: Most guys talk too fast and sound
way too eager. Relax, and talk slowly!

4) Use Your Flirty Voice: Don't sound like a robot
when you're on the phone asking her out. Use your
flirty voice.

5) Sound Cheerful: The energy of your tone is very
important. If you sound cheerful, the woman will
feel more comfortable accepting the date from you.

6) Don't Leave Her Messages: Messages are pretty
useless. A lot of women just screen them and don't
answer them. Or they just "forget" to call back.

7) Don't Call Her Too Often: Don't call her more
than twice a day. If you call her at lunch and she
doesn't pick up, wait 6 hours and call her in
the evening. If you call her in the evening and
she still doesn't pick up, wait 2 days before you
call again!

8) If a family member answers, then just ask for
her to call your back. Don't leave any messages
about meeting her, etc. You don't want her to be
embarrassed!

9) Hang Up Before She Does: Keep all conversations
short and hang up as soon as you've made the date!

Flirting with women at work

2008-03-23T09:47:00.001+01:00

I am often asked by my readers, "Marius, what is your
view on office romance?"

I think it's playing with fire.

In today's world, it is simply WAY too easy to get
screwed as a guy. Heck...you could even lose your job.

For example, what if she calls for sexual harrassment?

Now...you may be thinking, "But she seems like a cool
person...I don't think she would do that..."

But what if the relationship goes south in a few
months? Have you seen how crazy and irrational some women get
after a breakup?

Speaking of breakups, what are you going to do if
you breakup with her after a few dates? Keep in mind that
as a co-worker, she will be saying her day after day, week
after week. If there's ANY sort of weird "post-breakup vibe",
it's going to stay there until one of you quits.

Here's another potential scenario that has happened
to one of my readers:

What if your boss likes her too and discovers that
you like her as well? Don't laugh...I've seen it happen.

Or take the following example: What if a co-worker
has a crush on the same girl and starts backstabbing you
in front of the boss?

As you can say, these kinds of situations can turn
UGLY really fast.

So...here are my two cents to office romance:

KNOW WHAT YOU'RE GOING INTO.

Which colongue do women like

2008-03-23T09:46:00.001+01:00

What do you spray on before stepping out for a date or
for a night out at the club? Nowadays, there are plenty of
colognes for men. So how do you know which ones to choose?

Before we go any further, let me give you some "hard
facts" about cologne.

The world of cologne is a mix of magic and pure science.
Inventors of cologne for men have a vast variety of fragrances
to tap into - somewhere around 3000 different ingredients
ranging from fruits, flowers, woods and animal musk or glands.
(Yes, you read that right - 3000.)

But this is only a SMALL part of the forumula. The REAL
complicated stuff comes from the CHEMISTRY of how a cologne reacts
with a person's skin. Every scent of cologne smells differently
on every man, and the way a scent takes to your body and your
skin is a question of the chemical reaction between you and
the particular fragrance.

While another person smells great with the latest
cologne for men, it could make you smell more like a cabinet.
So, with this in mind, it is important that you TRY a cologne
before you buy it. (Note: Do NOT buy any cologne from the
Internet UNTIL you have tried it at a store.)

NEVER ever assume that the cologne for men that
smells good on everyone else will smell fine on you. The
choice you make should be oriented towards trying a massive
amount of fragrances to best match YOUR skin type and
individuality.

Not mine, not your best friend's, but YOURS.

So...next time you go pick up some cologne from
the department store, don't be afraid to try out different
samples. Smell the different samples to see which one
smells the nicest to you (usually that's a sign it will
react to your skin) and then try it on. If you want, bring
a woman along to smell it for you.

If you have the money, try to buy a few different
bottles. By rotating between different bottles, you won't
get too "settled" with a certain smell. (Remember: we want
to keep things exciting for the ladies.) Choose a weaker
bottle for the office and casual dates and a stronger
bottle for those "special" night outs.

Lastly, don't forget that while putting on a dash of
your favourite cologne does help you with women somewhat,
the most important factor is STILL your DATING SKILLS.
You could have the best cologne in the world, and women
would still ignore you if you lacked the DATING SKILLS to
go with it.

French kissing, secret that will melt any woman

2008-03-23T09:44:00.000+01:00

Why is French kiss different from a regular kiss?
The answer is very simple. It is because French kissing is
an open mouth kissing that makes use of your tongue. It is
known to be the most popular type of kiss and it be can give
you a very pleasurable kissing experience.

A French kiss is the type of kiss that usually
delivers to mind parts of the full sex act. Because of the
mental images that it creates, French kissing can be very
arousing. So if you want a simple act of kissing to lead
you and your partner to bed, try to learn some French
kissing tips.

So are you now ready for an enjoyable French kiss?
Here are some French kissing tips for you.

1) Relax your body. Only your lips and your tongue
are involved in French kissing. Begin with romantic,
slow, closed-mouth kisses, and slowly shift to
open-mouthed no-tongue kiss.

2) Breathing is necessary. Whenever you're ready
to use your tongue, open your mouth slowly and gently
nudge your partner's mouth open with the use of your
tongue. Move your tongue tenderly inside the other
person's tongue. The most important among the French
kissing tips is keeping the tongue movement slow and
gentle.

3) If your partner seems tense, stop what you
are doing. But if you notice that your partner opens
his/her mouth or is enjoying your kiss, then you have
to continue. Slowly give your partner's lips a tiny lick
using your tongue. This will give her an idea of
what's coming up.

4) Spice up this experience by sucking her
tongue or lips for few seconds. Stick your tongue and
allow your partner to suck it too. This adds intimacy
and variety in kissing. French kissing is "wetter" than
any other kinds of kiss.

5) As saliva build up, remember to swallow.

7) You can still French kiss if you have braces;
but try to be very gentle and avoid touching teeth.

8) Never shove your tongue down her throat
because she might choke.

9) Don't allow your tongue to go
limp; move it around your partner's tongue.

10) Add kinkiness in French kissing by biting
your woman's tongue or lower lip occasionally. If you
feel a strong attraction going on between you, then
softly tease her with your tongue. It will surely
make her wanting for more.

Have fun French-kissing your gal, and remember...
these are just a handful of techniques from my "Smart
Dating Course".

How to get ur first kiss

2008-03-23T09:43:00.000+01:00

After I sent out my last issue on kissing, I received
a few dozen requests to repost the "How To Get A First Kiss"
article that I sent out about 9 months ago. (Sidenote: you should
either save my emails on your computer or print them out and
store them in a binder like some of my best students do. You
never know when you might need to look something up.)

So...for those of you who have missed the old article,
here's a reprint of it. (Tommorow I'll show you the French
kissing tips that I promised you yesterday.)

------------------------------------------------------------

As a dating coach, I get questions from my readers on
how to "ask for" the first kiss all the time. But here's the
secret:

You should NEVER have to ask a woman for your first
kiss. (Only WIMPS ask for a first kiss, and you should know by
now that women are NOT attracted to wimps!) You should "test
the waters" by using the following technique instead:

Flirt heavily with her and get some good connection
when you're over at her house. Then when the moment is right,
I want you to look into her eyes...and stroke her hair. Tell her
her hair smells good. Look into her eyes again and see how she
reacts. (Feedback is IMPORTANT) She's got those dreamy eyes?
Lift her chin up with a finger and tell her her eyes are
beautiful and gaze deeply into them. She still responding well?
Great. Lean down SLOWLY towards her lips. (If she doesn't pull
away then she WANTS the kiss). Kiss her lightly on her lips.
Pull back and look into her eyes again. Smile. Then kiss her
again, but make it harder and longer this time. Kiss her for
awhile and then start nibbling on her neck.

Once you've "melted" her with this, she should be ready
to do more.

Well, there you have it, the killer technique to get
your first kiss with the girl of your dream. It won't guarantee
you'll have a girlfriend by tomorrow night but it can certainly
give you a better "edge" the next time you're out with a girl.

BUT HEY!

What if you knew so many PRACTICAL TECHNIQUES and
so many ways to DRAW WOMEN TO YOU that you could "magnetically
attract" all the women that come into your life? How good would
you feel about yourself? How confident would you be?

My Date Beautiful Women program is designed to give YOU
such power. It is very easy to increase your success with women
with this course.

By the time you finish reading the first few chapters,
you will be able to:

- Create ANTICIPATION and make women BEG you
to take things to the next level.

- PASS the TESTS women give you and REVERSE them so they
will work harder to attract YOU

- Get WHATEVER you want from a women, without acting like
a "nice guy" OR a "jerk"

- Make those awkward silences in a conversation not so
awkward!

- Understand the SEXUAL SIGNALS that women are giving
off!

- Get more women to NOTICE you instead of ignore you!

- Send out the RIGHT BODY SIGNALS and use SEXUAL
COMMUNICATION to build up her interests in you.

- Turn a long-time friend into a GIRLFRIEND

- Make women want to "surrender" to you because they
feel an EMOTIONAL CONNECTION with you that they
cannot control.

- Amplify your NATURAL CHARM so you can
"magnetically" attract beautiful women.

How to kiss a woman

2008-03-23T09:40:00.000+01:00

I am going to focus on the art of kissing for my next
couple of newsletter issues.

Kissing can give lots of fun and enjoyment, if you're
really good at it. And you should be good at it! Because lots
of women think that if you can't do get that right, especially
the first kiss, chances are you won't be able to do good for
the rest either. So if you want to be a ladies man, you better
become a good kisser.

Kissing, in the dictionary means, to touch or caress
with the lips as an expression of love, respect or appreciation.
It is a subtle art that must be taken intimately with your
partner. The best and most enjoyable style of kissing is the
one that makes use of different variations.

Some partners start with small, gentle kiss, going into
a French kiss (my next issue my focus on JUST the French kiss),
and eventually found themselves sucking each other's upper or
lower lip. However, the perfect and most romantic kiss is the
one that is shared with the person that is really special to
you. Though a good kiss can definitely make two people become
closer, still, there is nothing more sincere and passionate
than a kiss with someone you really care about.

To avoid nervousness and embarrassing circumstances
especially for first timers, it is important to know some
kissing tips:

1) See to it that you have a good breath! I'll bet you
will agree if I say that the surest way to spoil a perfect kiss
is by having a bad breath. So brush your teeth before going out
for a date or carry around a pack of gum or mints with you and
have some after you finish your meal, a glass of beer or a
stick of cigarette.

2) Try to pick the perfect moment, don't just kiss
the person when you feel like it. The right time to kiss your
partner is when your eyes meet and both of you aren't able to
look away. (If you're kissing for the first step, follow
my instructions on my past article titled "How To Get Your
First Kiss.")

4) Make sure that you open your mouth slightly as
you place it over your partner's lips. And as your lips
join hers, keep your lips slightly parted and press them
tenderly over your partner's lips.

5) It is also nice if you ran your tongue over your
lips before kissing because slightly moist lips makes kissing
a more pleasurable experience.

6) When the sparks start flying, and the two of you are
already kissing, don't just leave kisses to the lips. It is
more seductive and romantic if you kiss your partner's chin,
neck, tip of the nose, cheeks and even their eyelids. But
more than that, there are other kissing tips that each of
us should bear in mind.

If you don't feel confortable approaching women

2008-03-23T09:38:00.002+01:00

If you don't feel 100 percent comfortable with
approaching women right now...it's totally okay. Don't let it
stop yourself from doing it. The only thing you have to fear
is fear itself.

A boxing champion has once said that even the greatest
boxer wakes up in fear on the day of a tournament. But the
difference between a champion and a boxer-wannabe is that the
champion gets into the ring IN SPITE OF HIS FEAR.

The loser just quits.

Don't try to "repress" your fears. Be the champion and
fight on! The bottom line is...you're never a loser until you
quit and give up or start blaming other people or things such as
shyness.

Too many guys don't do anything because they're too
afraid to. Or they want to wait until they're "more
confident".

Don't be one of them. Go out NOW and start DOING!

It's like what they say in the marines, "What doesn't
kill you will only make you stronger."

If you learn to look at the BIGGER PICTURE (of yourself
picking up the skills to become a master at dating) and NOT
WORRY about the outcome of an encounter with a particular woman,
then you'll see how every approach and every date is essentially
just another TRAINING SESSION.

Don't let "fear" get into the way. A friend of mine once
told me that he was scared when he went away to bootcamp and got
"chewed out" the first time. But he eventually got out of
bootcamp as a more confident and more confident man - and he had
managed to pick up many skills that would be valuable to him for
the rest of his life.

Speaking of skills, your "fear" won't affect the outcome
of a situation with a woman. In the boxing ring, ultimately it's
the SKILL of the champion boxer that wins him the match. He
WINS in spite of his fear. He analyzes his own mistakes and turns
his weak areas into his strengths. That's what you should be
doing!

Remember: "Confidence" comes from "competency", which
in turn comes from PRACTICE!

If you're interested in working on your dating skills,
pick up a copy of my Smart Dating Course now at:

http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com/ebook.html

I'm not kidding around here. Order it now and try all
the techniques YOURSELF in the REAL WORLD.

How to eliminate ur garbage body language

2008-03-23T09:38:00.001+01:00

If you go to acting school, one of the first things
they'll teach you is how to remove all the "unnecessary' body
movements so that you'll look clean onstage or onscreen.

Marius's dating school is no different. Today, I'm
going to show you how to remove all your ineffective, "garbage
body language" so that you won't come across as a nervous man
in front of a woman!

Here's a very beginners exercise. (I'll give you
some advanced exercises in future newsletter issues.)

Go to any public place such as a college campus or
a shopping mall and try to SLOW DOWN and MINIMIZE your
movements as much as possible. Do this for 10 minutes a day.
This will feel VERY strange to you at first, but in a few
weeks you'll notice your body language is much more relaxed.

Why women flake out on men

2008-03-23T09:37:00.001+01:00

In my experience, there are only a few reasons why a
woman would flake out on a date:

1) Low Attraction: If Tom Cruise had asked her out on
a date, would she have flaked out? Probably not. She would
probably have prepared for it HOURS in advance, got a new
hairdo at the salon, and showed up 30 minutes EARLY instead
of being half an hour late.

2) She's Disorganized: A lot of flaky girls are
flaky because they are disorganized. They don't just flake out
on guys. They flake out on their own girlfriends too.

3) She's A Natural Flaker: This is worse than having
time management skills. Some girls are just natural flakes
because of the way they see the world. So many people have
let them flake out without any consequences that they don't
even see anything wrong with it. Getting a natural flaker
to stop flaking on you is as hard as getting a bad driver
to stop tail-gating you. She may stop flaking for a few
weeks when the attraction is high. But as soon as she settles
down with you, she will start flaking again.

So, basically...

No matter which category she is in, if a woman flakes
out on you, it means she either...

1) Doesn't like you "that" much.

2) Has weak character.

Here's my general rule on flaking: If a woman flakes
out on you once, you should call her on her b.s.

If she flakes out on you a second time, don't ask her
out AGAIN until she is begging for you to come out.

If she flakes out on you a third time, you should
cut her out of your life - FOREVER!

How much of a man are you

2008-03-23T09:34:00.000+01:00

Here are a couple of questions to ask yourself:

1) Do you workout at least 3 times a week?

2) Do you try to "upgrade" yourself constantly?

3) Do you try to excel in EVERY area of your life?

4) Are you adventurous?

5) Do you participate in competitve sports?

6) Are you a challenge to women?

7) Do you treat attractive women like "normal people"?

8) Do you exibit self-control and confidence on
dates?

9) Have you ever said "no" to a woman you're VERY
attracted to?

10) Are you comfortable with your own skill?

Are you a powerful loner

2008-03-23T09:32:00.000+01:00

After mentioning the term "powerful loner" in my last
article, I've been asked to define what the term means.

A "Powerful Loner" is a term I use in my Smart Dating
Course (which you should really get if you haven't do so yet).

Basically, it refers to a guy who thinks he's "picky"
about the woman he likes and that he's above the conventional
practices of dating...when deep inside he's just feeling
insecure.

Here are some symptoms of a powerful loner.

1) He thinks he's "different" than others.

2) He doesn't talk until he's talked to.

3) He would rather pretend to not like someone than
to be open about it.

4) He uses his "pickiness" as an excuse.

5) He thinks the "right girl" will see through
the asexual mask he has put up and fall in love
with him.

But guess why the "Powerful Loner" acts this way?

Because he has built such a thick wall around
himself over the years that he's "stuck" with that image.
He's too wimpy to handle rejection, and hence he doesn't
ever show his feelings. He never talks unless he's talked
to, because if he starts a conversation with a girl, it
may show his friends that he's not so "powerful" afterall.
In short, the "Powerful Loner" is constantly acting so
that he can be consistent with his "image"...when he's
really all bent-up and desperate for love or social contact
inside.

10 signs a woman may have character problem

2008-03-23T09:31:00.001+01:00

"10 Signs A Woman May Have Character Problems"

Here are 10 signs a woman may have
character problems.

1) She falls in love WAY too fast.

When a woman advances WAY faster than most
women do, watch out. It may not mean you're "lucky",
it may just mean you're dealing with a psycho. Watch
out for her either dominating your life completely or
falling out of love with you just as fast.

2) She treats her family badly...

Watch out for women who treat their family
members badly or say bad things about them. Eventually
she'll treat you that way too.

3) She likes to blame the world.

If a woman blames the world for everything
that happens to her instead of taking responsibility
for her ouw actions, you can be sure there'll be LOTS of
drama in your life if you start dating her.

4) She's on drugs.

Drugs are bad and will mess up a woman's
mind and body, period. I can understand college
kids smoking weed (though even that is debatable),
but anything beyond that is just BAD for you.

5) She's an alcoholic.

In the past I have been flamed by readers
for my advice on avoiding alcoholics. To all you
alcoholic-lovers out there, I am sorry to offend you
but I still stand by what I believe in. It's okay to
date an ex-alcoholic who's been clean for a few years,
but it is NOT okay to date a woman (or man) who is
still an alcoholic.

6) She hangs out with the wrong crowd.

As I have mentioned in the past, you can
often judge a person's character by looking at their
choice of friends. So if your new girlfriend hangs
around with the wrong crowd, watch out.

7) She plays mind games from the start.

If you can "sense" a woman is playing
mind games with you, chances are, she is.

Stay away...or there'll be a lot of
drama and hurt feelings...potentially on BOTH
sides!

8) Her income and living space do not
justify the lifestyle she has.

A little surprised that she can afford
all the nice clothes and makeup when she lives
in a hole or works at a coffee shop? It's a sign
that she's a gold digger and has at least one
other man out there who is supporting her.

Always be cautious about women who
lifestyles do not match with their income or
home. Even if she is NOT a gold digger, you
don't want a woman who maxes out your credit
on handbags and fancy gowns when you
get married. (Yes - there are many people
out there who live on credit. NOT good!)

9) Her stories don't match up.

Do her stories seem to not match up?
Watch out? She could be a chronic liar.

When dealing with liars and cheaters,
follow my two-strike rule. First time, you
let her off with a warning. Second time, it's
over!

10) Your friends tell you there are
things wrong with the woman.

Friends are usually less-biased than
you are since they are not in love with your
girl. If everybody starts telling you how they
think your new girlfriend is a slut or a
manipulative bitch, it's time to take a step back
and see why they feel that way.

How to get more attention from women

2008-03-23T09:29:00.000+01:00

A lot of my readers seem to suffer from what I call the
"Cellophane Symptom", meaning they are never noticed by women.

Here's my solution: If you want more attention from
women, then you better start DEMANDING IT - not just from
women, but from EVERYONE. You can't sit in a corner and expect
people to notice you!

Here are a couple of things I want you to do RIGHT NOW:

1) Raise Your Opinion: Don't be afraid to voice your
opinions when you're in a group. The more you talk, the more
people will notice you. If you just "follow" the group
wherever they go, nobody will miss you if you're gone.

2) Become A Leader: Leadership and charm go hand in
hand. If you want to be noticed, become a leader at work or
at school. There's no faster way.

3) Be SEEN With Women: Get your girl friends or cousins
to go to places with you. Be SEEN with women. This will greatly
increase your chances of getting noticed by other females.

4) Introduce Yourself: Volunteer to introduce yourself
at ANY social settings. Don't wait for someone to come up to
you. Don't wait for your friend to introduce you.

5) Excel At Everything: The more successful you are
in life, the more noticed you will be.

Take this advice to your heart. At school, play
sports and get onto the student's council. At work, become
a team leader. At clubs, be seen with a lot of females. The
more social proof you have, the more people - including men
AND women - will notice you.

Why use the flirt test

2008-03-23T09:28:00.001+01:00

Last night, a reader emailed me and asked if I could
post some "body language signs" that shows a woman's attraction
for a man.

The answer is "NO" because body language signs are WAY
too easy to be misused or abused.

There are a lot of books out there that state crazy
things such as, "If a woman tilts her head at 45 degrees while
looking at you from her shoulder and smiling at you with her
legs crossed, she must be attracted to you."

This is utterly USELESS in my opinion. In fact, I
really think it's all bullsh*t.

My motto is always KISS, or "Keep it Simple, Stupid!"

I don't need to check 15 different body language
indicators to see if a woman is attracted to me. I just do
the "Flirt Test".

When I want to find out if a girl is attracted to me,
I merely flirt with her a little bit. If she flirts back,
then I flirt more.

I just keep testing the waters and raising the
chemistry until she's all over me.

What to do after break up

2008-03-23T09:27:00.000+01:00

Here are some things you should do after a breakup:

1) Workout: Working out at the gym will help you get
her off your mind. The endorphins released during
your workous will make you a happier person. The
muscles you gain from working out will also make
you more confident.

2) See Your FriendS: Remember all the friends that
you've ditched to see your ex-girlfriend? Start
hanging out with them again!

3) Find New Hobbies: Find a few new hobbies to help
take her off your mind.

4) Go After Your Dreams: Set your long-term goals
and work hard at acheiving them.

5) See Other Women: See other women as soon as
you feel ready. It's time to move on!

10 signs a girl like you

2008-03-23T09:25:00.000+01:00

Here are some signs a woman may like you:

1) She won't leave you alone.

2) She asks a lot of questions about you.

3) She talks about you a lot in front of other people.

4) She flirts with you - a lot. (And JUST with you.)

5) She tries to do little favors for you.

6) She always finds excuses to be alone with you.

7) She gets jealous when you're with other women.

8) She invites you to hang out with her often.

9) she's very "physical" with you.

10) She has actually TOLD you that she likes you.

If you are unpopular with women

2008-03-23T09:24:00.000+01:00

Can I be REALLY honest with you?

If you're unpopular with women, chances are you're
probably UNPOPULAR IN GENERAL.

A lot of unsocial guys want to become "super studs"
with women...when they have NO FRIENDS or NO SOCIAL STATUS or
whatsoever.

Frankly, I think these guys are OUT OF THEIR MINDS.

I am going to tell you something NO other dating
coach will EVER tell you.

If you're "unpopular in general", you owe it to
yourself to EXPAND YOUR SOCIAL CIRCLE before you even DREAM
of becoming popular with the ladies.

Do something for me. If you don't have many friends,
forget dating for now. Spend the next 2 months expanding your
social circle first.

This will benefit you FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.

Whenever you get into a relationship, you ALWAYS spend
less time with your friends. And if you don't have many to
start out with, it's going to REALLY hurt your social life.

Why? Because when you break up with your girlfriend
3 months from now, you will find yourself with even LESS
friends than you have. Pretty sad, eh?

Furthermore, it's hard to meet girls when you have
NO friends at all. The "lone wolf" seduction games may help
you get a one-night stand every now and then...but lacking
an active social life will HURT your love life IN THE LONG
RUN .

So please...go make some new FRIENDS. In fact, go out
*every* weekend with friends from now on. Go to EVERY single
party you hear about. Just meet and meet and meet people.
Keep expanding your social circle...and i PROMISE you will
meet many girls on the way!

Why women ask men questions

2008-03-23T09:21:00.000+01:00

I am often asked, "Why do women ask men questions?"

Personally, I think women only ask men questions when
they are INTRIGUED by them. (By tye way, "intrigued" is womenese
for "I'm trying to find out if this guy has potential to be my
boyfriend or not!")

Think about it. If she hated you, would she be asking
you these questions at all? No, of course not! She wouldn't
even be talking to you. She would be trying to AVOID talking
to you instead!

But watch out. Your little interview at the first
meeting or on the first date is really a double-edged sword. It
can work FOR or work AGAINST you. If you give her the "right"
answers, she will come closer and like you more. But if you
give her the "wrong" answers, it will only push her away.

However, contrary to what most guys think, what
makes an answer the "right" or "wrong" answer does NOT
depend on the "answer" itself, but rather the ATTITUDE and
TONE behind the answer. When a woman asks you a question,
she is not just looking for your "answer". She is also
looking at HOW you answer her questions - as in how comfortable
you are in your own skin.

Here are a couple of tips on how to "handle" yourself
when a woman asks you questions:

1) Don't give her a straight answer every time. Play
around.

2) Try to turn the spotlight back onto her and get
HER to talk about HERSELF.

3) Don't give her any negative answers. ALWAYS be
cheerful.

4) Give her truthful answers about your hobbies
and interests, but don't tell her too much about your job,
income, or problems.

5) Flirt with her and tease her a lot.

6) Don't be a pussyfoot. Don't try to "appease" her
with your answers. Be a real man.

Why you always meet the wrong girl

2008-03-23T09:20:00.000+01:00

Every week, I get questions among the lines of "Why do
I always end up attracting women that I do not like instead of
women that I DO like?"

The answer to this question is simple. It's because you
always do all the WRONG things in front of women you DO like.

When you're with a woman you do not like, you probably
have the "no-care" atittude that is a MUST-HAVE in dating.
This confident, "no-care" attitude makes you VERY attractive
in a woman's eyes. Also, you're probably using some of the
techniques and concepts you've learned from me sub-conciously
because you're completely relaxed and at ease.

However, when you're with an attractive woman...it's
a whole different story. You may be too nervous...which
lowers your confidence and makes you appear more needy. And to
make things worse...you probably lack the self-control you need
to carry out the rigid rules laid out in the Smart Dating
Course.

But don't worry. I DO have some good news for you. If
you always tend to do better with women you don't like than
with women you DO like, it just shows you ARE capable of having
success with women. You just have to work on your self-control...
and actually have the discipline to folllow the rigid Smart
Dating rules.

If you own the Smart Dating Course, I want you to
print out a few copies of the self-checklist. Every time you
come home from a date, go through the checklist and give
yourself a score. See if you've done everything right.
Eventually, you'll be able to do the checklist less often
and still have success with women as you gain more and more
confidence and self-control.

How to act when a girl likes you

2008-03-23T09:19:00.000+01:00

If you find out a woman likes you, don't get too happy
and start acting like a wussbag. The game is not over yet. In
fact, it hasn't quite started. Do not become emotional and
confess your love to her. Remember that just because she likes
you NOW doesn't mean she will like you next week or next month.
Keep acting like a challenge and keep the chemistry high!

Here're a couple of practical do's and don'ts:

Don'ts:

1) Don't tell her you like her.

2) Don't start acting all emotional with her.

3) Don't wear your heart on your sleeve.

4) Don't start doing her little favos.

5) Don't start appeasing her.

6) Don't stop attracting her.

7) Don't settle into a "routine" with her. (Keep
doing different things to keep the attraction and
excitement high.

8) Don't stop seeing your friends.

9) Don't stop acting like a challenge.

10) Don't start acting needy or possessive.

Do's:

1) Do continue to act like a challenge.

2) Do continue to flirt with her.

3) Do go out with her on exciting dates.

4) Do try new things with her instead of settling
into a pattern or routine.

5) Do take it "one date at a time" and understand
that you have barely started dating her yet.

6) Do have self-control.

7) Do keep advancing forward with her slowly.

8) Do meet her friends.

What to do if your girl plays mind games

2008-03-23T09:18:00.000+01:00

If a woman tries to play mind games with you, you
should either bust her or ignore her. NEVER try to play
along, because it's just a waste of your time and will
only make things worse.

You know how sometimes when you keep a cat, it likes
to meow like crazy in the middle of the night for a night
snack? Or sometimes it "attacks" you playfully while you're
sleeping to get a reaction from you.

What do you do when that happens?

Do you wake up and feed him the snack?

Or do you hit it with a broomstick?

Neither. You just ignore it. Why? Because if you
give him any sort of a "fun" reaction (such as feeding him
and going after him with a broomstick), he will know he
can get you to play with him or to feed him by just meowing
whenever he wants.

Women are the same, whenever a woman plays mind games
or throws a tantrum, you DON'T want to encourage her way by
freaking out or getting upset. Just act indifferent...or even
act like you don't care because you can see through her.

Every time a woman does something silly, just look at
her and smile - the way you would do it if you were to say
"You REALLY like me" non-verbally. It is much more powerful
than freaking out or getting into an argument with her.

And if she keeps the bullsh*t up, it's time for you to
sack her and find yourself a new girlfriend!

How to impress women

2008-03-23T09:17:00.002+01:00

A lot of guys try to impress women by telling tall
stories, sucking up to women, or simply flashing their wallets.
This is all pretty stupid in my opinion.

Today, I'm going to show you the REAL way to impress
a woman.

The REAL way to impress a woman is to LIVE LIKE A REAL
MAN instead of trying to act like one. You can't "convince"
this to a woman. You have to SHOW it.

For example, if you go to a club and flirt with two
women in front of a hottie, it will be MUCH more effective
than walking to the hottie and trying to "act" like a ladies
man.

Similarily, you can't really lie about your education
or intelligence. If you try to lie to a woman or tell tall
stories about your career, it will only set off her "bullsh*t
detectors". Don't boost about the little achievements you
have. Instead, build up your resume until you can leak out
ANY information by accident and it will still be enough to
impress her.

Too many men want to become a James Bond without
putting in any hardwork. If you want women to start treating
you like you're Bond, then you better start LIVING like James
Bond. Want to be less boring? Then BE MORE EXICITING! Get off
the couch and go have a few adventures. Travel abroad. Go
to exotic places. Go bungee jumping. Go ski-diving. Heck, join
the navy and see the world if you're tight on budget. But
don't just sit in front of your computer and hope you will
become a real man one day.

At the end of the day, living like a REAL MAN will
get you more women than "pretending" to be one - and you
can quote me on that.

So...how would you like to gain the dating skills
you need to become a "super-chick-magnet"? How would you
like to learn my YEARS of experience in one evening?

If so...you SERIOUSLY need to download my Smart
Dating Course today. Not tommorow...not next week...but
TODAY...because the sooner you download, the sooner you
can start living the lifestyle you've wanted for so
long.

Easy ways to ask for date

2008-03-23T09:17:00.001+01:00

Here's a better way of getting a date: "Suggest" instead
of "ask".

Next time you meet a girl you like, flirt with her,
get some rapport going, and talk about her hobbies. You know,
the things she likes doing in her spare time.

If she comes across something that you enjoy doing as
well...or if she sounds interested in one of YOUR hobbies
or favourite activities, suggest doing it together with her.
Watch her reaction closely. If she seems receptive of the idea,
then set up a date and close for her number. It works almost every
single time for me!

How to maintain ur love pad

2008-03-23T09:16:00.001+01:00

Here's a couple of tips on how to maintain your love
pad:

1) Make your bed before you head out. I'm serious.
No chick will get into a messy bed.

2) Put air refreshers by your bed to get rid of
your smell.

3) Keep your apartment CLEAN.

4) Leave some artwork on the wall. Personally I use
cheap posters of famous artwork. You can get them at poster
places for like $8 each.

5) Keep a few indoor plants.

6) Have some "conversation pieces" lying around.
These can be your CD collection, you gun collection for
the brothers in the south (I have a friend who's only
into Soutern Belles and they seem to DIG his gun collection)
or just a couple of books lying on the coffee table. My
personal favourite is a little acqurarium.

7) Have condoms in your bedside drawer AND under
your bed. Keep some massage oil and lubrication close
by too. I even have a pair of "flurry handcuffs" in a
drawer.)

8) Put faders / dimmers on your lights so that you
can create a more romantic atmosphere whenever you want.

9) Buy a pack of "50 candles" at IKEA and light
them all on special occassions. (Make sure you don't
set off the fire alarms though.)

So...now that you have your pad ready for action,
do you have the girl?

If not, you need to get my Smart Dating System
NOW. This program is going to literally change your love
life around. You're going to learn secrets and step-by-
step techniques for everything you need to know to start
meeting the women you have always wanted to meet.

3 most expensive mistake a man can make

2008-03-23T09:15:00.000+01:00

Here are the 3 most expensive mistake you can make
with a woman.

1) Staying With The Wrong Women: This one is definitely
THE most expensive a man can EVER make in the dating game. If
you disagree with me, just talk to ANY divorce lawyer and
ask him how much an average divorce costs a man. Here are some
trivial facts:

- 3,000 men get divorced every day
- Average divorce costs: $10,000 (legal fees only.
Prepare to lose up to half of your total assets in
court, including your house and car keys!)
- 50 percent of first marriages end in divorce
- 60 percent of second marriages end in divorce

If you still don't see this as a threat, then just
remember my "Superman" analogy. You can fantasize, pretend
you're Superman, and jump off a 10-story building. But when
the ground finally hits you, it's going to HURT.

Listen. I get emails EVERY DAY from email that have
finally "figured out" the biggest mistake they have EVER made
in their lives was marrying the "wrong" woman. Trust me,
these guys REALLY regret it. In fact, I can cite AT LEAST a
couple dozen of RECENT examples in which one of my readers
have been sCREWED OVER by an ex-wife or ex-girlfriend. (Like
the guy who got his boat stolen from a girl he met over
the net!)

Now...you may be thinking..."But Marius...I am still
pretty young...I just want to fool around and I am not going
to marry anyone yet."

Well, in that case, you should STILL be careful. Any
one-night-stand or internet material DOES have the potential
to turn into a quick marriage and eventually a nasty divorce.
This is NOT funny stuff. I have seen it happen MANY times.

Take this advice to your heart, no matter how young
you are. This is honestly more important than any pickup
line or flirting technique I could teach you. Any dating
coaches may promise you gimmicks and many one-night stands.
I show you the "reality" of dating: I teach you BOTH the
best killer dating techniques AND how to protect yourself
in the rough, rough world out there.

2) The second most expensive a man can make is
trying to use money to get women.

If you have been reading my newsletter articles
for awhile now, you should know by now that it is NEVER
a good idea to use money to impress women. NEVER. I will
repeat that once again for those of you with money to
spend. NEVER.

I don't care if you're a millionare (I have a
couple of millionare-readers). If you have to spend money
to attract a woman, you're attracting the WRONG women.

Listen. There are specific things you can do
that DOES get you A LOT of girls (such as flirting and
teasing and being a challenge), and then there are things
that either DON'T WORK AT ALL or attract the WRONG kind
of women (such as spending money). So why not STOP doing
the things that don't work and focus on the things that
DO work? You'll even save a few bucks as a result.

If you absolutely positively see the need to
spend money because it makes you feel rich, then go
build a school in Africa. But don't go chasing after a
girl with diamond rings.

Here's an exercise for you big-spenders: From
now on, whenever you go out with a woman, I want you to
pay with CASH instead of with your credit card. I want
you to actually go through the EMOTIONAL PAIN of pulling
$90 out of your wallet for a concert ticket, $40 for
a dinner, and another $15 for 2 drinks. (If you were one
of my "Gold Star" students, you could have just rented
a movie for $5 and made out with her on the couch!)

3) The third most expensive dating mistake you
can make with dating is actually not downloading my
Smart Dating Course. Ask yourself the following
question...

How much money have you spend on dates and
"attempted dates" in the past 2 years? How much money
have you blown on your ex-girlfriend? $200? $100? $500,
or more? (Probably more, as $50 a month makes $1200 in
2 years.) If you had used a TINY portion of that money
to download my Smart Dating Course 2 years ago, where
would you be now in the dating game? Probably a
"smarter dater" who's a few dollars RICHER than you are
now because you would have known how to attract your
women instead of just spending money on them.

Here's the bottom line: If you have gone out
on 1 or 2 dates that have led to NOWHERE...or if you
have gone out to a bar or nightclub once or twice
WITHOUT taking a girl home for the past 2 years, you
would have made a "better investment" if you had
downloaded my course 2 years ago.

But of course, hindsight is useless as most
men are simply "not capable" of thinking that far into
the future. Instead of thinking..."Hmm...If I save 50
cents a day over the next month and buy this course
now, it will teach me valuable dating skills that will
benefit me for the rest of my life", they think, "Maybe
if I buy Sherri dinner tonight, she will actually smile
at me!"