Practice makes perfect

I am sure you have heard of the saying, "Practice
makes perfect."

But does it apply to dating?

Well...personally, I think here's a better statement:

"Practice makes permanent."

The theory behind the idea that 'practice makes perfect'
is that the frequent repetition of a certain action (such as
approaching a woman or asking a women out) will eventually
establish it as a normal pattern. The more you repeat it, the
more firmly established your pattern will be.

This is good if you're practicing the RIGHT way.

However, if you practicing the WRONG way in
the first place, then repetition is going to make things WORSE
for you when it comes to getting women.

Here's an extreme example:

One of my readers had a habit of giving a woman a
"thumbs up" whenever he conversed with one. He first started
it "by accident" when he needed some kind of gesture to
"act cool" in front of a woman he talked to. But the next
time he approached another woman, he did it again...

And again, again and again...


It didn't take long for it to become a habit,
and he soon he found himself giving a "thumbs up" to
every woman he met.

It took him a long time to "undo" this habit.

So how do you avoid practicing the "wrong" things
and ruining your dating game as a result? Well, here are
some tips to help you stay on the right track while
you're practicing.

1) Avoid Mindless Repetition

Mindless repetition is not going to help you
any. You could ask a 100 women for their phone numbers...
but if you do it just for the sake of completing a certain
exercise, it's not going to help you at all. Rather, it
will probably reinforce your bad habits.

(Example: Don't be like the guy who gives women a "thumbs
up" every time. Avoid mindless repetition!)

2) See It As An Art Form

The best way to avoid mindless repetition is to
see dating as an art form. When you treat something as an
art form, you're going to pay more attention to the PROCESS
than the RESULTS. A classical pianist will often play
the same passage over and over to look for imperfection.
Have the same mindset when you're practicing your dating
skills. Learn to appreciate your good work, and at the
same time look for things that you can improve on.

(Example: Let go of your expectations and focus on
improving your skills.)

3) Learn From A Valid Source

Make sure you learn your techniques and strategies from
a valid dating coach - not from an Internet Marketer
who has paid someone on Elance $500 to write an ebook
on dating. Lots of "dating advice" websites have popped up
in the past year, and there's a lot of misinformation
out there. If a certain technique sounds spooky to you,
feel free to email me and ask for my opinion.

(Example: Don't use the stupid business card trick that
I've warned you about a few months ago. Be weary of sites
that look like a porn site and use pictures to arouse you,
etc. Email the site a few dating questions and see what
kind of answers you get. Most of the time, you won't
get an answer at all.)


4) Think About It

Spend as much time THINKING as you do practicing. Practicing
is useless you actually THINK about what you're doing!

(Example: Keep a journal and write down your experiences.)


5) Analyze And Find Solutions

Analyze your results and think about your current problems
and obstacles. Then find a solution to fix your problem.

(Example: If you find yourself Speaking too quickly in
front of a woman, then slow down instead of just repeatng
what you've been doing all along!)


6) Isolate One Thing

Practice one thing at a time instead of trying
everything at once. This way you will know PRECISELY what
it is that you're doing right or wrong. Isolate your
mistakes and learn from them, and in time you can only
improve your success.

(Example: Work on speaking clearly on the first day and on
speaking louder on the second day.)


7) Relate It To The Bigger Picture

Practicing is useless and boring unless you see how it
relates to the big picture. For example, when you practice
smiling at a woman, don't do it because Marius told you to.
Do it because you know it's a way to make women feel
comfortable around you.

(Example: Read the first few chapters of my "Smart Dating
Course" to get the basic concepts drilled into your head.
This way you will see how the techniques actually fit nicely
into our "Smart Dating Model".)

8) Imitate A Master

Look around you and find men that are REALLY good with
women. Imitate their actions and practice doing what
they would do if they were put in the same situation.

(Example: Go rent a Tom Cruise movie and practice
imitating his body language. Then when you go out on
a date, ask yourself, "What would Tom Cruise do?")


9) Don't Avoid Mistakes

You can't have good luck unless you have had bad luck
in the past, and you can't taste success until you
have made mistakes first. Until you feel what it is
like to do something wrong, you're not going to know
if you're doing something right.

(Example: Try to laugh about your mistakes to yourself
and see them as part of your learning experience. At
least you're conscious about your mistakes unlike most
guys. That makes a HUGE difference!)

10) Learn To Feel

Let yourself immerse into the experience every time. For
example...if you're a swimmer, you should know what it's
like to feel every stroke in the water. Or if you're a
musician, you should know what it's like to feel the
music.

Try to do the same thing with dating and with your social
life in general. When you've involved in a good
conversation, sink in the energy and FEEL what it's like
to be right. Or when things aren't going too well, then
FEEL the warning signs. In time, you will build up
your intuition and that is when you will REALLY become a
master at social dynamics.