How to undo damage you ve done with a woman

I am often asked, "How can I undo the damage I have
already done to a relationship, such as not acting enough of
a challenge to a woman or getting into a big argument with
her?"

Unfortunately, this is no magic fix. You can't just
go back in time and "fix" any damage that has already been
done.

Let me show you what I mean...

Whatever situation you're in right now, you're only
in it because of your past actions. For example, if your
girlfriend finds you too needy and wants some "personal
space" right now, it's because you were too needy IN THE
PAST. And since you can't go back in time and live your
life again, there's nothing you can do right now that can
"reverse the damage".

However, never forget that your future will one
day become your present, and when that happens, your present
will become your past. What this means is that whatever you
do NOW will affect your future. So while you can't go back
in time and "reverse" the damage you've already done, you
can take action now to make things better for the FUTURE.

For example, if you have always been needy in the
past, you can't just call a girl and "promise" her you will
give her lots of personal space from now on. You can,
however, ACT independent from this moment on, and if you're
lucky, in a few months she may stop seeing you as a needy
person.

Here's another example...

If you've just got into a big fight with a woman,
instead of doing further damage by proving to her that
you're right, you can just let the issue cool down and
work on ATTRACTING her.

Here's the bottom line: If you just keep fighting,
her attraction for you will keep dropping. But if you stop
fighting and start attracting again, in a few months she
may be so attracted to you again that she'll forget about
the fight completely.


In short, always look towards the future and never
dwell on the past. what done is done. You can't change your
past. Focus on shaping your future instead!

Lastly, don't forget that it is much logical to
PREVENT making dating mistakes than to REGRET making them
later on. Too many guys come to me for help only AFTER they
have done a great deal of damage to their relationships or
to their love lives.

Solution? Play the love cop. Look at your love life
and relationship objectively. Try to see if you're "missing"
anything or making any costly mistakes. Never get cocky and
stop improving your love life.

As I always tell my students, what you can't see will
eventually kill you. Just like a car, we each have blind spots
in our love lives. For example, you could be doing things
that are driving women away RIGHT NOW without even knowing it.
Your job as a Smart Dater is to identify each of your blind
spots and overcome them one by one. We ALL have areas that
we need to work on more - even me.