How to act when woman likes you

So how should you act when a woman likes you? This is a
topic that I'm going to cover in the next couple issues of my
newsletter.

The FIRST thing you should do when you find out a woman
likes you is to ask yourself HONESTLY if you like her at all.
Very often I see a guy flattered by receiving such attention from
a woman and start dating her just for the sake of having a girl.
Of course, eventually he becomes "attached" to the FEELING of having
a woman - even though he never "really" liked THIS particular
woman in the first place.

Weeks pass, months fly by, and the poor guy starts to get
unhappier and unhappier as he looks at all the other women
around him. He wants to leave the relationship badly, but he
is absolutely terrified of breaking up due to his emotional
attachment. Even worse, he has become so accustomed to having
a woman in his life that he would rather stay in a lousy
relationship than to look for a new mate. (Can we say
"pussywhipped"?)

Sounds a little extreme? Let me tell you that it happens
ALL THE TIME.

You see...

In human psychology, the fear of loss is ALWAYS greater
than the desire for gain. Most guys would rather stay with what
they ALREADY have rather than risking it for the possibility
of getting something greater.

The result is they stay with a woman they never REALLY
liked...and the relationship eventually turns into a nasty
breakup or a BAD marriage.

Don't fall into this trap. I'm not telling you to
breakup with your girlfriend or to not have one-night stands at
all. If you have one-night stands, just make sure they are
casual flings unless "real" feelings (not just infatuation)
develop. The point is to be careful BEFORE you enter a "REAL"
relationship with a woman. Have at least 9-10 dates before
you ask a woman to become your girlfriend. Date her for awhile
before you get too serious and talk about moving in.

Here's a golden rule for you to follow: If you have ANY
second thoughts about your feelings for a woman, then you
probably do NOT like her enough. For example, if you have to
sit down with a beer and think about whether you like a
woman or not, then the answer is "No, you don't."

Take this lesson to your heart. As a dating coach, I've
heard WAY too many horror stories from guys that have gotten
together or even married with the FIRST woman who showed
affection for them. It's a mistake that a lot of "inexperienced"
guys make. They would rather have ANY woman than no woman at all,
and once they get their first woman, they try to cling on to her
because they don't want to be alone again.

Don't let yourself make the same mistake!

Last time we talked about the first thing you should do
when you find out a woman likes you. (Which is to ask yourself
HONESTLY if you like her too or not.) Today, I am going to show
you what you should do assuming you DO like her back.

First of all, here are a couple of things you should
NOT do:

1) DON'T TELL HER YOU LIKE HER: Don't tell a woman
you like her, even if she likes you. It's UTTERLY USELESS!
Too many guys confess their feelings to a woman as soon as
they find out she likes them. Then they wonder what has
happened when she suddenly losing interests in them. If
you're a frequent reader of my newsletter or a owner of
my "Smart Dating Course", you should know why. (Hint:
Lack of challenge!)

2) DON'T START ACTING "DIFFERENTLY": A lot
of guys suddenly act "all serious" as soon as they find
out a woman likes them too. Playful flirting becomes
serious vow-making; Casual dates become serious business.
In short, the "cool" guy the woman once liked has turned
into a needy little boy that tries every trick in the
book to please her.

Listen: If a girl is interested in you, it means
she is attracted to who you are RIGHT NOW. So stop doing
stupid things to impress her. Focus on keeping the
chemistry high instead.

3) ASKING FOR COMMITMENT TOO EARLY: Every woman
likes to have fun, but nobody likes making decisions too
early on. So do NOT ask for commitment verbally as soon
as you find out a woman likes you.

Have you ever read "Romeo and Juliet"? You know
the line "What's in a name?" (You should - women love
cultured guys.) I personally think the line applies
perfectly to dating as well.

When two people are happy together, then they
are happy. There should to NO HURRY to label the
relationship with a title. Titles mean JACK. You
could be "officially together" with a woman who cheats
on you every time you turn your back, or you could
casually "hang out" with a girl who's so crazy about
you she thinks about you 24/7.

When the time for commitment comes, you will
both know it. When the time comes to become a couple,
you will both know it. (It will probably happen
naturally.) So don't push for commitment or for a date
to become your girlfriend too early on - even if she
appears to like you a lot.

Now that you know what NOT to do, tomorrow
I'll show you what you SHOULD do. I'll show you exactly
how to act to keep beautiful women interested in you.
So stay tuned!
As promised, today I am going to teach you how to
KEEP a woman interested in you after you've started going
out with her.

1) GIVE HER FUN: No matter how long you've been
with a woman, she still wants to have FUN.

2) GIVE HER ROMANCE: When I mean romance, I don't
mean giving her flowers and gifts. I mean FLIRTING with her
and TEASING HER. You know...doing the things that raise the
SEXUAL CHEMISTRY.

3) GIVE HER ATTENTION: Even if you're a busy guy,
you STILL have to be attentive. This means calling and
seeing her every once in awhile and noting all the details
about her.

4) GIVE HER CHALLENGE: Never become "pussy-whipped".
Never be completely "won".

5) TALK TO HER: Have at least one good talk every week.
Maybe before bed. Maybe when you're walking in the park. This
will help you solidify the bond with her. I don't care how
busy you're with work. If you can't even spare an hour on
your girlfriend once a week, then it's really your fault if
the relationship turns sour.

6) GIVE HER EXCITEMENT: Do NOT fall into a routine.
Keep things fresh by doing different things ALL the time.
Go to different places for dates. Go to different restaurants.
Do crazy things, but never settle down into a boring routine.

Here's a good rule to follow: Never do the same
thing twice. Always look for something NEW to do, and the
dates will always be exciting.

Follow these tips, and her attraction for you will
stay high.