Are you really ready for a girl friend

As a dating coach, I often help guys that have been
devastated by recent breakups or guys that are frustrated by
their loneness as a single man. I often hear things such as,
"I don't know how live without her..." or "I have lost all
motivation to do any work since she rejected me."

You know what I always tell them?

"If you can't live without this woman, then you never
deserved her in the first place!"

These are harsh words, but true to the heart.

Bottom line: A man cannot expect a relationship a woman to
"complete" his life.

Quite often, I counsel guys who feel like all their problems
will go away as soon as they patch up with an ex-girlfriend or get
together with the girl they really like.

I also hear phrases such as, "What's the point of
going to work or finishing my degree...when I know she is not
going to be there with me anyway?"

One of my readers even wanted to drop out of college
to join the army because his girlfriend had cheated on him.

(Note: There is nothing wrong with joining the army. It
should just be a decision that you take SERIOUSLY -
and not as a way to escape the world. The military is
a profession and should you go after it, I want you to
succeed with it.)

This is absolutely crazy....I PROMISE you that if you
feel this way, then you are NEVER going to find true happiness.
In fact, even if you do come across the girl of your dreams, you
are probably going to push her AWAY from you with your neediness.
(Remember guys, being a challenge is the key to being attractive.)

Here's the advice of the day:


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*"You CANNOT enter a relationship before you've leart to *
*enjoy being single. You CANNOT be loved by a woman until *
*you've learnt to love yourself." *
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I know these words may sound very sappy, but every word
I've said so far has come from my years of experience as a dating
coach - and you can bet I've worked with thousands if not tens
of thousands of cases.

Here's the bottom line...If you're not too happy with
your current life right now...I highly suggest you work on
YOUR LIFE besides using my dating tips to flirt with women.

Over the years, I've observed that many guys tend
to be attracted to women with qualities that they don't have
themselves.

For example, we may be attracted to women who are
more sociable than we are.

We may be attracted to women who are better dressers
than we are.

We may be attracted to women who are more popular
than we are.

We may be attracted to women who seem to have more
money than we do. (Not kidding - lots of readers have told
me this.)

And if we don't get reciprocal feelings from these
women, then we remember that we are "losers" who don't have
the things they have. Some of us may even start isolating
ourselves or evading from the real world by indulging in
fantasies, playing computer games, or joining the army
just for the sake of growing up.

If you're one of these guys...THEN WAKE UP!

You won't "magically" get the qualities that
you seek by lusting after a more popular, more sociable,
more healthy, more talented (in whatever field), or
wealthier women.

What you REALLY need to do is to work on developing
these qualities IN YOURELF.

Instead of always falling in love with women who
communicate well, become a better conversationalist yourself.

Instead of always admiring women who seem to move
naturally and gracefully, work on your own body language.

Instead of putting women who are popular on a
pedestal and treating them as Goddesses because they are
more popular than you are, work on becoming more sociable
YOURSELF.

On the way, I promise you will end up meeting a
few women (if not many) who share the same traits - the
same traits that you have wanted to have all your life.