Today's tip is going to be very short. I'm going to
answer one of the most common questions I receive every
day.
A question that I always get from my readers is:
"Marius, what if a woman asks me about my love life
or if I have a girlfriend while I'm on a first date...when
I haven't even had a girlfriend for a long time?"
Obivously, you don't want to "lie" to her and tell
her that you have "many" girlfriends when you don't.
Nor do you want to tell her that you're a loser who
hasn't been on a date for years. (Remember: You need
to remain a challenge!)
So here's what you tell her...
Tell her "I don't have a girlfriend right now, but
I do have a couple of prospects."
When you get to the "couple of prospects" part, tilt
your head a bit, look into her eyes, and smile at her. Then
IMMEDIATELY throw the ball back into HER court by asking,
"How about you? How's your love life?"
Or...if you wanna tease her, then asks, "How about you?
How's your love life? You even have one?"
It works like a charm!
The biggest mistakes in dating
Today I'm going to show you one of the most common
mistakes that the novice Smart Dater make:
Trying to be perfect.
The biggest mistake that I often catch my students
make is spending too much time READING things and "preparing"
themselves for meeting their dream girl instead of actually
DOING and practicing the things I've taught them.
Listen. You will *never* be perfect.
Even I am not perfect. (And I've been doing this for
years!)
Here is's a rule that I am probably going to add to
the next Smart Dating Course update:
"Good enough is enough."
Don't try to learn every single technique before you
start flirting with women.
Don't try to be think of every possible scenario or
outcome before you approach a woman.
Don't wait until you're "perfect" before you approach
a woman.
Chances, you're not going to get it on the first try,
second try, or even third try. These skills take time and patience
to develop. If you obsess about being perfect the first time
you talk to a woman, you'll NEVER get to talk to her - period.
So instead of worrying about getting it right the FIRST
time, focus on taking ACTION.
Go crash and burn - I beg of you.
As long as you learn from your mistakes each time, it
won't be a waste...because you can only GET BETTER.
I promise that you will learn *much* faster if you
actually go out and PRACTICE instead if just reading my dating
tips.
But of course...the biggest objection to this is, "But
I can't afford to fail...because she's the only girl I like and
she means everything to me..."
Well...let's just say that if you have this kind of
attitude, then the battle has been been lost. Until you can
detach yourself from the outcome of a situation, you're never
going to be *really* good in an area - be it dating or any
other area of your life.
Here's the assignment of the week: I want you to get
off your lazy butt and...
1) Make eye contact and smile at 25 women you do not
know.
2) Flirt with every woman you talk to casually.
3) Tease the attractive women.
4) Compliment the unattractive women.
5) Go out twice.
mistakes that the novice Smart Dater make:
Trying to be perfect.
The biggest mistake that I often catch my students
make is spending too much time READING things and "preparing"
themselves for meeting their dream girl instead of actually
DOING and practicing the things I've taught them.
Listen. You will *never* be perfect.
Even I am not perfect. (And I've been doing this for
years!)
Here is's a rule that I am probably going to add to
the next Smart Dating Course update:
"Good enough is enough."
Don't try to learn every single technique before you
start flirting with women.
Don't try to be think of every possible scenario or
outcome before you approach a woman.
Don't wait until you're "perfect" before you approach
a woman.
Chances, you're not going to get it on the first try,
second try, or even third try. These skills take time and patience
to develop. If you obsess about being perfect the first time
you talk to a woman, you'll NEVER get to talk to her - period.
So instead of worrying about getting it right the FIRST
time, focus on taking ACTION.
Go crash and burn - I beg of you.
As long as you learn from your mistakes each time, it
won't be a waste...because you can only GET BETTER.
I promise that you will learn *much* faster if you
actually go out and PRACTICE instead if just reading my dating
tips.
But of course...the biggest objection to this is, "But
I can't afford to fail...because she's the only girl I like and
she means everything to me..."
Well...let's just say that if you have this kind of
attitude, then the battle has been been lost. Until you can
detach yourself from the outcome of a situation, you're never
going to be *really* good in an area - be it dating or any
other area of your life.
Here's the assignment of the week: I want you to get
off your lazy butt and...
1) Make eye contact and smile at 25 women you do not
know.
2) Flirt with every woman you talk to casually.
3) Tease the attractive women.
4) Compliment the unattractive women.
5) Go out twice.
What if you and ur best friend like the same girl
A question that I often get is, "Marius, what if I
have to decide between going out with a woman and keeping
a best friend who also happens to like the same girl?"
This is a really question to answer - as there's no
"proper" answer.
In my years of experiences as a dating coach, I've
seen cases where a man turns away a best friend just so he
can be with a woman he really likes - only to break up with
the girl a few months after.
It sorts of makes you ask yourself, "20 years of
friendship gone for a relationship that didn't even last
three months...was it worth it?"
But of course, there are some RARE instances where
a man chooses a woman over a friend and has a very good
relationship with her.
But these cases happen rarely, and you should be
aware of the odds. 90 percent of relationships do NOT last
past the first few months So when you choose a woman you've
JUST MET over a friend you've known for 10 or 20 years, you
should be aware of the FRIENDSHIP you're risking and the
ODDS THAT YOU ARE AGAINST.
Here's my advice: Think about your friendship,
think about the woman, and then weigh the consequences.
I cannot tell you what to do when it comes to choosing
between a woman and a friend. I can show you the facts,
but at the end of the day it is going to be a decision
that YOU will have to make - like a man.
As I always say, there are many situations in life
where a "real man" has to make a tough choice and then
LIVE WITH THE CONSEQUENCES without any regrets. This is
a perfect example of such a situation.
have to decide between going out with a woman and keeping
a best friend who also happens to like the same girl?"
This is a really question to answer - as there's no
"proper" answer.
In my years of experiences as a dating coach, I've
seen cases where a man turns away a best friend just so he
can be with a woman he really likes - only to break up with
the girl a few months after.
It sorts of makes you ask yourself, "20 years of
friendship gone for a relationship that didn't even last
three months...was it worth it?"
But of course, there are some RARE instances where
a man chooses a woman over a friend and has a very good
relationship with her.
But these cases happen rarely, and you should be
aware of the odds. 90 percent of relationships do NOT last
past the first few months So when you choose a woman you've
JUST MET over a friend you've known for 10 or 20 years, you
should be aware of the FRIENDSHIP you're risking and the
ODDS THAT YOU ARE AGAINST.
Here's my advice: Think about your friendship,
think about the woman, and then weigh the consequences.
I cannot tell you what to do when it comes to choosing
between a woman and a friend. I can show you the facts,
but at the end of the day it is going to be a decision
that YOU will have to make - like a man.
As I always say, there are many situations in life
where a "real man" has to make a tough choice and then
LIVE WITH THE CONSEQUENCES without any regrets. This is
a perfect example of such a situation.
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